HELLOW EVERYBODY, WELL W WENT TO A COUNSLER TODAY, BUT NOT A MARRIAGE COUNSLER{A LAWYER}.IT JUST AINT FAIR.WHEN SHE GOT BACK, SHE TOLD ME HE SAID THAT I NEED HELP, AND THE BEST THING FOR US TO DO IS STAY AWAY FROM EACH OTHER, NO CONTACT AT ALL. W TOLD HIM THINGS THAT WERE NOT TRUE, SHE TOLD HIM THAT WE ONLY HAD SEX 4 TIMES THIS MOUNTH, AND WHEN WE DID SHE FELT LIKE SHE WAS BEEING RAPED. HOW CAN SHE SAY THAT? WE HAD SEX 3 TIMES THIS WEEK. LAST WAS WENDSDAY AND SHE DROVE, SHE DID ME FOR A LONG TIME, SHE WAS ON TOP AND, I KNOW SHE FINISHED FIRST. LAST FRIDAY AROUND NOON SHE CAME OVER TO MY MOMS HOUSE JUST TO HAVE SEX WITH ME, SHE FINISHED THEN ALSO, THAT DONT SOUND LIKE RAPE TO ME. I CANT BELIVE WHAT SHE IS SAYING. WE TALKED AND CAME TO A AGREMENT THAT I WOULD GIVE HER HALF MY PAYCHECK TILL WE GET BACK TOGEATHER. BUT RIGHT NOW IM AT OUR HOUSE AT 4 AM IN THE MORNING AND SHE AINT HOME YET. OUR KIDS ARE HERE BY THEM SELF SO IM GOING TO STAY HERE WITH THEM. I DONT KNOW WHAT SHE IS DOING, BUT SHE IS NOT GOING TO DO THIS TO OUR KIDS. WE DID NOT RAISE THEM THIS WAY BEFORE, WERE NOT STARTING NOW. THERE WILL BE HELL WHEN SHE GETS HERE BECOUSE IM GOING TO TELL HER TO GET HER CLOTHS AND GET THE HELL OUT OF THIS HOUSE. IM MOVING BACK IN AND KEEPING THE KIDS. THEY WILL NOT LIVE LIKE THIS. I HAVE BEEN HERE SENCE 11 PM WHEN THEY GOT BACK FROM CHURCH CAMP. THEY WOULD BE ALONE IF I WAS NOT HERE. I HATE THAT IT CAME TO THIS, BUT ATLAST I KNOW WHERE I STAND. ITS OVER. THANKS EVERYBODY, NOW I START TO WORK ON ME.<BR>GARY

Have you considered seperating for a bit rather than going right to divorce? Your wife is not thinking well right now and you are justifiably enraged with anger. This might not be the best time to make such a final decision.<P>Many people talk about the "temporary insanity" thier spouse goes through during an affair. I don't know your story so I don't know who had the affair. I am assuming that since your wife is out at 4AM and you are home with the kids that it was/is probably her. <P>Your wife's behavior however is more than hurtful, it is leagally threatening. That is serious. Sepearting with no contact may be a good thing for both of you. She can't accuse you of rough physical contact if she does not see you. <P>If I were you I would see an attourney immediatly. If she succeeds in having the legal system take these charges seriously, it may be possible to keep you from seeing your kids!<P>I would document your where abouts as much as possible in the future if you do separate so that if she does accuse you, you can prove you were somewhere else. One easy way to do this is to open a word document on your computer or go on the internet. Everytime you do that a time stamp appears on your computer. That proves you were home. <P>AND YES GET THOSE KIDS. Sounds to me like they need you now.<P>Your wife may wake up eventually. In the mean time, you have to hold on. But given what she is saying about you, and that she is saying this to an attourney, I would welcome her no contact idea!<P><BR>Acacia

HH,<P>Whatever you decide to do, leaving your children alone like that is DISGUSTING and dangerous. Yes, do, take over the child care NOW.