Now that we're working on things again. He asked me if it was too late to work it out, so both of us made some decisions. We are going back to church soon as a family. I think we've been gone about 4 years. My work really can't afford anyone not to work weekends since it's a busy restaurant/retail, but I don't care anymore. I told her today that I'm taking my Sundays back, and if it doesn't work out there to do that that I'm putting in my notice because I'm very dissatisfied with my life right now. She's giving me Sundays off, which is unfair to the others that they have to work weekends when I don't, but I don't think she wants to lose me since I'm a hard worker and good at what I do. At this point my life is coming first since something has to be fixed. <P>He wants to go into religeous counseling because obviously we need help. We're in the same cycle over and over where he does things that irritates me and I say things I shouldn't which makes him feel unloved and it also bothers me that he won't talk to me where I feel I'm talking to a wall. I take his silence that he just doesn't care enough to talk it out. Tired of him asking "Are you done b****ing yet?" because I know he doesn't care enough about me to really listen what I'm trying to say. <P>I don't want to live without him, yet I think I'm still irritated with him. I do miss caring about him. I think I do to a certain extent, yet I've been hurt again. I can't believe our marriage was so bad yet I didn't notice. <P>Just wanted to let you know that I'm here to remind myself how I should be treating him. Rather than immediately tell him why I'm upset with him I'm going to think about it for a while. That's my first goal.

Hey, Dove!<P>I'm glad you're working on things! How is your progress toward your first goal?<P>All the best! --HBC

Dove -<P>How are things going, I'm curious, too. I think it's great that you are able to take off on Sundays to go to church again. I wouldn't feel bad about having your priorities in order. God first, work - well somewhere around number 5 or so!<P>Have you been able to communicate any better with your H? I'm reading His Needs, Her needs right now, and conversation is supposedly one of the top 5 needs for women. If you haven't read the book, you might want to pick up a copy. My H and I are really getting a lot out of it. Hope things are getting better for you!