Sheba, <BR>Reread all those posts you sent me and change the names around so that I sent them to you. Those were great inspirational posts you sent me.<P>Just talk to yourself(I seem to do a lot of that now!) and give yourself one of those great pep talks like only you can give,<P>Bob

Hi Everyone and Thank you all so much!!<P>You are all so great and the outpouring of love, hugs, kind words and wonderful advice are what keeps me balanced!!<P>THANK YOU!!!!<P>Well, I have processed ...... I hurt, then got angry, then tossed and turned and finally gave myself a good talking to!!!! So now, everything is pretty much in perspective!!! YAY!!<P>Except the house....I am still up in the air about that one!!!! <P>Just to let you all know....my SIL calling about the girl's recital was not to flame me or anything...quite the contrary - she wanted to put me at ease by telling me that she had taped it for me!!!! She is wonderful.....That's what brought the tears, I guess!!!<P>Today I made some progress!!! I found a garage to take the car to....will be going in tomorrow AM and it's within walking distance so I don't have to worry about getting someone to come get me!!!<P>Also, I talked with H this morning...<BR>He asked me if I was feeling better and I apologized and said that it was just a bad time.....told him about car, etc.<P>We talked a bit and we were supposed to have a court date today...my lawyer's office called me at work to say that she's sick and it's postponed!! I said that it's a good thing cuz nobody informed ME about it and I wouldn't have been there!!!<P>We are discussing the mediation thing and I will talk with Shark Lady by next week!!! Still don't think that it will accomplish anything but...I will show good faith and if he gets mad during it - OH WELL!!!!<P>Again, than you all so much for being there and putting up with my rants!! I was able to discover that if I get it all out then I can process it and get past it a lot quicker!!!! <P>Monique - I'm sorry that you weren't in a great mood either....how nice of you to boost me when you need it too!! Here's a BIG HUG - it's not much but it's the best I've got!!!<P>Lucks - The Hugs and Smilies do wonders!!!<P>ES - You mean I have to take my own advice? LOL!!! Thanks for the thoughts and prayers!!<P>NB - Thank you for reaching out when you are going through so much....I have to catch up with all I've missed since Friday - but I will get there!!! BIG HUGS to you from my heart, too!!! (See what you made me do!! I'm rhyming now!) LOL!!!! Salmon juice? YUCK!!!! LOL!<P>NSR - Thank you!!! You know, I remember your first post and I am so happy and proud of how you put all that "wanting to do" energy into learning and understanding, and then into helping soooooooo many people here!!! BRAVO!!<BR>Even though I am sad about how you got here....I am so glad that you found us!<P>FHL - Oh, you flatterer you!! LOL!! Yeah, I know - I am tooooo sappy!!!! Love Ya!!<P>Willbok - Thank you for helping me remember that it could be worse...that story....UGH!!! I guess it's true that we are only given what we can handle! What do you think about a Scre####d Spouse Club? LOL!! That's OK - we might get it now, but I wouldn't want to be them getting it later!!!!!<P>SDS - You know, that's where I got the title of the thread from...."It's raining, it's pouring, etc"....only these words kept popping in my head - can still hear the little ditty!!!! I hope your "turn" doesn't come!! But You are right - we will all get through it and survive!!!! Absolutely!!! Lots of hugs and prayers right back at you!!<P>Please Help - Thanks - you had me laughing....I want the helmut but not the foxhole....been in too many "pits" for too long already!!! "Shrapnel out of my teeth" LOLOLOLOLOL!!!!!!<P>Lostva - Hi and yes it stinks!!!! Getting it all out of the way? Good point - at least I hope that happens!! NO - didn't break anything - I'd have to clean it up!!!! LOL!!!<P>Heartpain - Thanks for the kind words and the pick-me-up!!! Bring on that garbage truck!!!! LOL!!! Nope - not breaking yet.....I'm sorry that I have not gotten to respond to your threads since Friday...I will get to them soon!<P>Nellie - Sometimes it seems so overwhelming that ya just feel like a loser, you know? I know that it is our H's that are losing....not us!!!! Not in the long term anyway!! I tend to agree about some things being more important than finances....I will figure this out somehow!! Thanks for the cartalk information...will try to see if I can locate it!!!<P>Derby - Thanks for the possible diagnosis...pray that it's not expensive!!!! It's hard to know what to do with the house because I don't know what income I will have and what I can afford!!! The monthly expense (rent vs mortgage) will be pretty much the same! The deciding factor is repairs and upkeep...... new roof, siding, etc. vs new and/or not have to be worried about. Who is "Boundaries" by? I still haven't figured out mine since the Forgiveness Workbook... Self-imposed guilt is usual for me.....only when I feel that I didn't do my best to accomplish what is right in my heart...even if I don't have to much of a choice! Thanks for the hugs and kind words. What you said about our dogs.....sooooo true!!!! I don't know why the saying is "men are dogs" when they are bad.!! Completely ridiculous!!!! I WISH!!!!!<P>Chris - OK, I'm Back!!!! LOL!! (where does that line come from? Driving me nuts!!!!) Oh, I guess I am VERY ALIVE then, huh? You too, it seems!!!! Getting a touch of Infidelity BrainWarp?<BR>Yeah, I'll be OK and so will you.....<P>SHA - I got a mental picture of all these people sitting at their computers sopping wet!!! LOL!! Thanks for reaching out - I know how you are feeling and I wish I could do something for you...... HEY, I'll let ya punch my arm if ya want!!!! LOL!!! Thanks for the Group Hug - it feels really good!!!<P>Toolbox - HI I never got back to my other thread yet, but I read your post!! How are things going? Thank you for reminding me of all the wonders I should be giving thanks for....I do most of the time!!! Thanks for the prayers!!<P>RMA - OK, you had to go and spoil a perfectly good "pity rant" with a sense of humor now, didn't you!!!! LOL!!! <BR>I hardly ever have 'em and now they have to be classified as laughing rants!! Geezzzzzz - I can't even rant right!! LOL!!! Thanks so much, I needed the LOLs!!!<BR>How I wish we all really could get together....OH what the hay, everyone to my house for New Year's 2000!!!!! <P>NB - NO FISH at my house!!!!! Not since H left!!!! LOL!!!!<P>RWD - Another one throwing my own words at me.....LOL!!! You are absolutely right though and as you can see - I gave it to myself but good!!!!! It's OK to talk to yourself...it's a good ego booster cuz someone might actually listen!!!!! LOL!!! Gotta get to your threads too.....I will soon!!!<P>HUGS to you all,<P>Sheba

Me again, <P>Thought I would jump over here! <P>I don't know how I'm doing anymore. Sometimes I think I'm OK, other times, not so OK. Did you get my email? It's still giving me trouble.<P>Anyway, I'm pooped and heading home. <P>You take care Sheba.<P>Hugs to you, <BR>SHA

Hey, I'm going away for the weekend. Flying to Florida to meet a girlfriend.<P>My H has the 3 girls, so he's gotta be good.<P>My fantacy is that the Christmas tree, which is now marked in a field with a bandana, will be in the tree stand when I come back Sunday.<P>Anyway, maintain while I'm gone....I worry about everyone when I can't check in.<P>Glad you are feeling better!<P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13

I’ve been dying to use that line since you’ve been here! It’s a movie starring Burt Lancaster.<A HREF="http://us.imdb.com/Title?0044509" TARGET=_blank>Come back, Little Sheba</A><P>Good luck with the car & the mediation!<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A><p>[This message has been edited by Chris (CA123) (edited December 09, 1999).]

Sheba,<BR>The Boundaries book is by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. It really helps you not feel guilty abount not meeting everyone elses demands. It is a great book for people that are real givers like you

MOOOOONDO HUUUUUUUUUUG!!!!!!!!!!!!<P>------------------<BR>God Bless,<BR>Rob<P><BR>