Ok. so lasr night he called me from work, (Cuz that is the only place he can call me from, besides a pay phone.) We talked, and talked, and talked...Not about us getting back together, but about how his new relationship isnt quite what he expected. Gee, I wonder why... Anyway, he claims that he wants to get help for his lying, and to better understand why he does the things that he does. He talked to our children for the first time since Sunday, they told him they wanted him to come back, I dont know what he told them. He claims that things between them, arent what he expected them to be, my guess it is OW cannot come within 250ft of our children, that seems to put a big damper on their happiness. So now what happens? Do I continue on the path of being his one and only friend, because he has chosen to aleniate himself from all his other friends?

<BR>His claim he wants to get help...this is good...maybe he can start counseling. <P>Yes, by all means, be his friend. That is a good start...to be someone he feels safe with and cared for by.<P>Hang in there--<P>Kathi<P><BR>

Yes...<P>Plan A... Plan A... Plan A...<BR><B>All the way</B>!<P> <P>Jim

. . .and let him read excepts from the post today about why "marriage to affair partners don't last." No, just kidding.<P>But keep him talking! And be nice!

MikAsk:<P>This is what is meant by being a good friend in Plan A. Includes listening to his complaints about OW and expressing sympathy.<BR>You are the one he's turning to now for understanding instead of OW....keep it up.<BR>This is a tiny first step toward the road home.<P>Remember not to expect anything...he will probably vacillate back to OW again...just be accepting and give it time to resolve itself.<P>Buffy<BR>