Well, I know you all know about my screaming match when H admitted to PA. Don't know what I was thinking.<P>I still believe there was physical contact in the beginning but not all of it hence the obsession about it. Or maybe I'm deluding myself.<P>Anyway, I did tell H to file and I got a phone call today from my lawyer who heard from his lawyer. So..... I guess here goes!!<P>My heart still sank very low. This will be his 2nd divorce. there was not an affair in first marraige, but he did become infatuated with me when he met me. Wants to relive the salad days. I suppose it will be nice for awhile, but when he is putting 5 kids through college. (our 3 her 2) it will get old!!!!!

I'm so sorry TT<P>I really didn't think he'd file. I still think he may just pull outta it and stop it. Lets see, Hon. Are you okay? Man, one thing after another, you've definitely had your share of heartache the last few weeks, or really months.<P>How are the kids doing?<P>You know, I'm not positive of logistics but I wanted to tell you that I felt the reason he decided to go full bore in the A was not because it became physical but because the OW finally moved out from her house and H.<P>Am I wrong about the timing, didn't she just do that recently?<P>Jo

Yes Jo, she moved out on mother's day. He was still semi nice to me then. But he did become more distant when she moved out.<P>She told her H that she was moving out because she was scared he'd come home.<P>She kept wanting him to make up his mind. Of course she only whines to her husband, to my H she is miss supportive.<P>Perhaps that's when it became more physical.<P>But I do know he was P***** when I stopped talking to him and P****** when I went away for 3 weeks and he couldn't see them.<P>But my screaming fit DID get him to admit to it being a PA. He can no longer tell me or his family that they are just really enjoy working together and have that antimaterialism bond. <P>So in some ways.... I did get him to admit it. I don't know, I just feel he is gone (i mean in the head) for good. He won't even talk to his own mother!!!!<P>sex, sex, sex.

TT,<BR> You know, I wouldn't be a bit surprised if the OW isn't creating some guilt on your H's part with what "she gave up for him."<P> I wish I could help, but I'm in a mess with my own life and can't think of anything to tell you except Plan A.

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>I don't know, I just feel he is gone (i mean in the head) for good. He won't even talk to his own mother!!!!<BR><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>tootrusting,<BR>I really believe he will come out of the fog someday. Maybe you don't feel much about him then, I don't know.. but if you think he's gone for good(for now) that's really good for you. I think that, and counting good things happened to me after he left(and there're tons). I know you are still hurt but your(and my) H is temporally insane.<P>many hugs,<P>Meg