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#393656 08/08/00 12:46 PM
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[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<BR> [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<BR> [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P>I'm doing an informal survey and would like a "Yes" or "No" answer to a question. Doing it for guy I've been dating.<P>All I really need is the simple answer though you may provide any additional details you wish.<P>*****Have you ever had a wife/girlfriend who physically abused you?*****<p>[This message has been edited by cinderella (edited August 10, 2000).]

#393657 08/08/00 01:55 PM
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Nope. Never.

#393658 08/08/00 03:17 PM
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No.

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cinderella,<P>I have had 4 former girl friends become physical and punch me in the arm and chest. I just laughed and never considered it abuse. This was a long time ago 30-35 years ago. They were mad and couldn't hurt me anyway. <BR>Today, it would be considered abuse. I never thought much of it. I was/am a lot larger than them.<P>Does this help your survey.<P>JL

#393660 08/10/00 03:42 PM
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Ok guys - I know you're here. Speak up!!

#393661 08/10/00 04:19 PM
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My sister's boyfriend told me that her boyfriend's ex-girlfriend used to hit him & would become violent whenever she was mad at him.<P>When my Aunt was married to her ex-husband, they used to get in nasty arguments and she would throw things at him. One of the objects was an iron! I don't know if he became violent to her. I only know that he was extremely mentally abusive to her.

#393662 08/11/00 01:45 AM
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#393663 08/11/00 05:04 AM
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Simple answer --- "NO"

#393664 08/11/00 05:30 AM
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Another simple answer- No.

#393665 08/11/00 06:10 AM
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I have a female family member who has thrown several things at her husband (like candles and remote controls, glasses of water) and even caused stitches on his face. She is like a typical abuser, doesn't have control of her anger. She always felt guilty and sick afterward and tried to downplay it or blame it on her husband. Now she is much better- she saw a therapist for anger management and is on prozac. As far as I know, there haven't been any incidents since then.

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<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by cinderella:<BR><B>*****Have you ever had a wife/girlfriend who physically abused you?*****</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Nope. Like JL, she punched my arm and hurt herself. I laughed. She didn't find it funny.<P>Bama<P>

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<B>NO</B>

#393668 08/11/00 08:48 AM
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Let me jump in here real quick. (I am not a man)<P>Once, absolutely sick of my husband's verbal abuse, I slapped his face. He was yelling, spouting off "FU" and "Stupid B*" and so forth. (Because I told him that if he wouldn't leave his stuff scattered all over the house, he'd be able to find it.)<P>I felt at that point that I didn't need to be talked to like that. I wasn't angry in the least, just tired of being disrespected. I walked over and slapped him. And then walked away. He followed me to the bed room and told me that I'd better be afraid to go to sleep that night. He told me that he was going to call the police on me, cuz that's what I would have done had he hit me.<P>He has never, never, never let me forget this. He taunts me about being a physical abuser and unable to control my temper. He has this idea that I have tried to hit him on other occasions, but he caught my hands. I have no idea what he is talking about. Maybe I'm crazy, I guess. But I would never do it again, that's for sure.<P>It was a wrong choice of reaction. Sometimes what you do in reaction to a person is far worse than what the original crime was.

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My brother's exwife had these very long fingernails used to scratch the heck out of his face/chest/back whenever he misbehaved. She stabbed him with a pencil once and chased him with a knife down the street. She knew he would never fight back!


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