Please define soulmate for me.

Hiya Ron,<BR> "Soulmate" is a generally reviled term(around MB anyway lol) used by wayward spouses to describe their OP (Other man or woman). Usually used early in the affair when the "fog" is densest.<P> Have I left anything out MB'ers?<P>Bill

That's about it...

I sure hope others will chime in here, because I know I have read accounts by the WS of feeling like their affair partner was their soulmate.<P>Harley describes "soulmates" as a pair feeling intense emotional attachment. Most often they begin with a friendship. The friendship becomes caring over time and more and more of their needs are being met by the friend. A friendship develops froma willingness to care for each other.<P>I think it can very often happen innocently, but they end up believing that they cannot ever be apart from each other.<P>It is on the upper end of hopeless!!!! Although the relationship between Sue and Greg in the SAA book was one and over time it unraveled.<P>This is the type of affair my H is in. He has worked with the OP for a long time and she has worked very hard for him...also complaining constantly about her miserable marraige..... stupid me listened to my H's concerns for her and commiserated!!!!<P>Too much time was spent at work and at lunceh and then a long trip and BAM.... into the very bizaar world of fantasy they go.<P>I know in "their" world, OP and my H believe that this is real, and it feels very real to them. They are both giving up their children, and families and friends...<P>To the outside world, they look alittle insane. They don't think they appear in any way, and yet everyone talks about them like they are 16 year old lovebirds. Nothing else exists for them.<P>I had to step aside!<P>Now, tell me why you ask???? Did you hear that from your wife??

Tootrusting and all,<BR>No, I didn't hear it from my H. It is a term bandied about on the message boards and I couldn't find a definition in my dictionary and was curious to what other people thought it was. It sems everyone has their own interpretation so my quest will continue.<BR>Thanks for all your input.<BR>If I find a definition, I'll post again.

Ronster: Here you go. Found it at dictionary.com:<P>soul mate (sl mt) <BR>n. One of two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view, or sensitivity.<P>soul mate n : someone for whom you have a deep affinity <BR>Source: WordNet ® 1.6, © 1997 Princeton University <P>And from Merriam-Webster's:<P>Main Entry: soul mate<BR>Function: noun<BR>Date: 1822<BR>: a person temperamentally suited to another <P>Hmph! Don't know about you, but for me reading the definitions seems to take the *magic* out of the terms . Hope they do the same for you.<P>Peace, ~Marie<P>P.S. I prefer this spelling better: solemate.....think fish! ...!!!<P>

How about solemate -- the bottom of someone's shoe? Or another definition in my Webster's - "sole - not married, having no companion, having no sharer". The definition of soul mate mentioned above "a person temperamentally suited to another" sounds like the spouse he/she originally fell in love with and married, left at home while WS is off with "solemate".

Marie,<BR>Thanks for your definitions. You always seem to come through with replies and answers. Those definitions make sense to me. I certainly thought that was my H, now I'm not so sure.<BR>He can't give me a satisfactory answer as to why he thinks we are soulmates, at least he never told me that he and ow were soulmates. Somehow it is a little comfort to me.<BR>Thanks again, you are terrific!!!Peace and love,<BR>Ronnie

Ronnie: Ooops, sorry! Thought the soulmate question was in reference to OP.<P>Since H is referring to you (W), we will definitely go with the "soul mate" spelling...LOL .<P>Hugs, ~Marie