Sorry I disappeared in the middle of our discussions on whether I need to Plan B, even though my H is no longer cheating.<P>There was some great advice in the responses to me, so I'm now trying to rethink what actions I need to take in order to get at least SOME of my needs met (besides taking a 2X4 to H's head! ).<P>I'm thinking that maybe I need to write my H a LOVE letter instead of a Plan B letter, telling him what I specifically need from him, and then take off for a few days to give him time to think. The worse that could happen, I guess, is that he'll tell me that he's "not gonna kiss my butt", as he has previously told me. If that's the case, then maybe a separation would be in order for us.<P>We went to our new vacation place in the Mountains this past weekend. A couple of H's buddies went and they spent most of the weekend fishing. H said that the trailer looks pretty (after my weekend of frenzied decorating). H's single friend said, "Well...my girlfriend would LOVE it." Guess they thought it would look like their deer camp.....NOT!!!!! Yuck!! <P>Anyway, when I'm there, I don't obsess over Cafe Woman, but as we neared home, my thoughts once again turned toward her. So, I guess that I feel "safe" from her in the mountains, but am uneasy here at home, probably because there is no way to avoid even seeing her on a daily basis in this small town. Her business is in the main part of town, and we have to go by there all the time.<P>Oh, I wish we could MOVE!!!!!!<P>Oh, well, I'll be back when I get my thoughts together a little more.<P>Thanks to everybody for the help!