My husband and I were married 5 yrs before his A, my second marriage, his first. I have two teenage daughters and he has a teenage son. His son has no contact with his mother, so is home all the time. My oldest is living on her own. I see a lot of posts about people staying together with the kids in mind, but when it's your kids/my kids its a whole other story. I moved out with my daughter after D day, he stayed at the house with his son. Both of my daughters were very angry about the situation and were very angry when I began to talk to him again. Nine months later my daughter and I moved back, at her reluctance. I understand this has been difficult on everyone. It was also strange when he and I "dated" while living apart and when I would spend the night and his son was home. I wonder how this will affect his son's view on relationships in the future - hopefully he will see the positive parts and not think you can get away with having A. Anyone have similar experiences? I read the article on how infidelity affects children and it kind of misses my situation.

JR16--<P>I don't have any experience with a situation like yours, but I wanted to bring this back to the top so others who might have insight to share are sure to see it.<P>From the outside, though, it seems that your daughters and step son might be getting a good lasting lesson from your experiences, despite all the pain they went through.<P>It sounds to me as though they are learning from you that marriage is a commitment that shouldn't be walked away from even when your spouse does something foolish. Your step son has learned that his dad is human and has human failings. It's a bit early in his life to learn that, but I'm betting that he will be the stronger for it if you and he are indeed on the road to recovery, which is what I gather from your post.<P>Are you or any of the children in counseling? It might help everyone to sort things out (expecially the teenagers).<P>Good luck to you, JR. I hope things go well for you. --HBC<P>