Went to lunch with the minister/counselor I stole from my w today. We talked about my healing.<P>HE told me two things today:<BR>1) The truth shall set you free. Truth being our Lord, Jesus Christ.<P>2)I need to learn to trust 3 people.<BR> a) The Lord, He is there for me and has a plan for me in his time.<BR> b) myself, the affair and the impending divorce isn't about me, it is about stbx. I am a good, stable person, and I will find someone out there for me, see a) above.<BR> c) my children, they are smart, have been brought up well, and they know right from wrong. There is no need for me to try and "save" them unless they are in physical danger. They in time will come to decide what is right and wrong about our situation.<P>Well, this day just went down hill. Stbx just called, wanted to talk about Christmas. She said she has already spent $500 on the kids and still has to buy them stocking stuffers and wondered if I could help out. I said yes<P>Then she said she wanted to take the kids to Florida in Jan. Thats where om's mother lives. She said it would be up to them if they wanted to go. I said okay.<P>I told her my lawyer called and the papers have been filed. She said she knew as she got papers with court date. I didn't get mine yet.<P>Our hearing is scheduled for Feb 1st from 10:30 to 10:45.<P>And to think, this was to be a cheery post.

I just turned my papers over to W yeaterday<P>------------------<BR>brownphdt<P>

RWD,<P>As I read your post, I thought about how far you gave come these past months! What a great post! Anger is really under control.<P>Yes, You have 3 great things to trust in. I am really PROUD of you. Your W is another fool! You are a GREAT person, and your kids are LUCKY to have such a wonderful Dad.<P>I admire you and the other guys here raising your kids while your wives are throwing away some valuable time they can NEVER make up with their kids.<P>brownphd,<P>SORRY......I know this is especially HARD for you!!!! <P>Roll Me Away<P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR>

All I can say is AMEN!!!!<P>The Lord works in mysterious ways. When we let go & Let God thats usually when God works his magic in whatever way he sees is the best for us.<P>Genie

Guys,<P>My marriage is officially over tomarrow at around 1:30 pm.<P>Eric32

sorry you're feeling that way.<P>Jo

I guess I should be happy as I do want this divorce. After all the lies, hurt and rewriting of our history together, and just plain selfishness, I have lost all my love for this woman.<P>However, I don't feel anything. There is a kind of a buzz where my heart used to be, bbut there is nothing in there beating.<P>This is a bad night for the kids to be with their mother. I need them tonite.

Hey RWD,<P>I feel for ya, but, just can't reach ya. Boy, that FL thing would kill me. This sucks worse than life itself. You have children involved. I do not with this marriage. I don't know if it's any easier for me than you. How do you rate ripping your heart out and stomping on it on a scale of 1 to 10?<P>My first marriage Toni took the kids to Washington state. I think she only stopped there because she can't swim and couldn't go further west. The kids did turn out great even with out me. Maybe because that was the reason! <P>They say everything happens for a reason. I would like to know who "they" are and see a resume. We can't change anyone else except ourselves.<P>My kids turned out Great! Me on the other hand is a completely different story.<P>Now I really am going to bed.<BR><P>------------------<BR>"It's not over till we say it's over! Was it over when the Germans bombed Pearl Harbor? H*ll no!" Blutto...Animal House 1984<P>Wishing us all the Best.<P>Medic<P>

RWD,<P>Don't want to be a real jerk here, but, I was separated from Toni for 3 years and living with Valerie when the divorce was final and it still kicked me in the @ss. You can't put your feelings on HOLD no matter how hard you try. If only to be a Vulcan.<P>------------------<BR>"It's not over till we say it's over! Was it over when the Germans bombed Pearl Harbor? H*ll no!" Blutto...Animal House 1984<P>Wishing us all the Best.<P>Medic<P>

Medic,<BR>You certainly have a way with words.(LOL)<P>Bob<p>[This message has been edited by RWD (edited December 08, 1999).]