I have suffered so with this marriage that it doesn't make sense to quit now. I used to say I'm not going to spend the rest of my days wondering whether or not my husband will ever change.<P>I had a retaliatory affair the second year of our marriage--I ended that and apologized to the gentleman for getting him involved. The third time my husband left me, I got involved with a man I really liked. I ended that relationship because I took my husband back.<P>Sometimes, I found myself thinking about giving up on my marriage because of what people would expect me to do. <P>However, I don't want a divorce and until my husband declares he wants one, I am going to be a good wife and mother. I have resolved to do my part regardless of his inability to keep his end of the wedding vows. <P>Many couples have beat the odds of getting out of a troublesome marriage and finding happiness. On the other hand, some have found themselves in worse predicaments.<P>If I can gamble leaving my marriage, why not gamble in my marriage? At least, I will be certain of one thing, and that's how I feel about my husband--I do love him.<P>I have just decided to be brutally honest with myself. Since I have made that decision, I feel like a burden has been lifted off my heart.<P><P>------------------<BR>Love hurts no one.

GF<P>Love hurts no one unless it is to someone else outside the marrieage! I am glad to see that your past indescretions have proven to you that you indeed want to be a part of this marriage. i am unclear who started all of this affairing, but you both need to take a look at your lives. Whoever has th OP now, must leave that P for good. Then you both need to come to a concious decision to give it a real shot. then work on your "marriage basics." Read all the sites here, post all new questions, we can support you and your H, there are people from both sides of the coin here. No judgements, just support. Tell your H about the Site, he may benefit too!

[QUOTE]Originally posted by burnedspouse:<BR><B>GF<P>Love hurts no one unless it is to someone else outside the marrieage! I am glad to see that your past indescretions have proven to you that you indeed want to be a part of this marriage. i am unclear who started all of this affairing, but you both need to take a look at your lives. Whoever has th OP now, must leave that P for good.<P></B><BR>Hi, BSpouse.<P>My husband started the "affairing" . I guess I wanted him to feel the threat of losing me and found it served as a weapon against me.<P>I have also accepted only he can decide about us at this point. It is from this point I am allowing to go into effect for me.<P>Thank you for the offer of support. This sight has helped me more than I ever thought it could.<P><P>------------------<BR>Love hurts no one.