I haven't posted in a while, so here's the quick update: W went for therapy. Therapist told her No Contact with OM. W has been living on her own for 2 weeks now, D moved with her. <P>D called last night for homework help. I talked to W afterwords. She said she was depressed and sad. She couldn't seem to get her chicken to cook right, and asked me if I would come over and show her how to cook sometime. See, I did all the cooking in our marriage. Not to brag, but I'm pretty handy in the kitchen!<P>I also helped her set up the computer in her apt over the weekend.<P>Anyway, I checked her e-mail this morning. Serious snooping, I know, but what I read floored me. A lovey, gooey letter to the OM. In it, she stated "i just got my computer up and running..." and "I don't have my chicken right yet, but I'll have it right by the time I see you again, so I can cook for you."<P>She also said "can't wait to see you in October," "You're my drug of choice and I can't live without you," and other sickening stuff.<P><BR>How low can she stoop? I set up her computer so she could write love letters to OM, and now she wants me to help her cook for him???!!! <P>Now for the LB. I called her this morning. I told her I had access to her e-mail. I took her to task for the cooking lessons charade, the computer set-up thing, and the fact that she wasn't even close to following the therapists advice. I also took her to task for telling me one thing on the phone ("we need to work on building our relationship"), while telling him she "can't live without him" not more than 15 minutes later. I said she was playing me for a fool, and that I wouldn't take it anymore. I said "what's next, do you want me to pick up OM at the airport when he arrives?"<P><BR>I know this was a major LB, but dammit, how can I believe she's "building our relationship" while she's booking a flight to go see him?!<P>I know this goes against all of Harley's principles, but I think I'm finally over my W. My love for her isn't totally dead, but its on life support for sure.<BR>

CJ- I am so sorry you are getting taken advantage of...what a pain! Are you still plan A or B-ing it? Sort if inbeween. The trick is not to help WS financially and no contact with WS until OP is dropped. That is plan B. Sort of simplified. <P>I feel your frustration. The next time she asks a favor, just say, "Why don't you let *** come and do it for you, I sure he would be happy to!" Don't let her depend on you, tht must be part of the you that she misses that will bring her back when the A bites the dust. And it will eventually.<P>Be strong, but not vendettive...and let this latest go! Look to the next time when you can calmly deny your talents to her.