I just read your post, hon--I'm sooo sorry things are getting so screwed up. <P>Bumped you up on my list because of the urgency. But our time difference may make this come after your dinner date.<P>If this helps, great. If it's nonsense--I'm sorry, but I don't think it will do any damage.<P>You (if you were born 6/3/57) are a Gemini-Fire-Rooster<BR>H (if born 11/20/55) is a Scorpio-Wood-Goat <P>Goat with Rooster:<P>This is a dicey combo. Roosters are conservative and individualistic. They deplore laziness and cannot tolerate lackadaisical attitudes in others. Goats like to take it easy. They don't believe in work for its own sake, they would rather sit still than move about and are ever ready to get someone else to take care of their basic needs.<P>As the Rooster often has great difficulty scratching out a living, she will be impatient with the idea of anybody living off the fat of the land and will wish the Goat would find a real job like a normal person. Goat's feelings are readily hurt. They don't take kindly to critisism and hate hearing the truth. Tensions can mount in this household and very little will be talked thru because the Rooster hates discussing his emotions.<P>The fickle Goat will wander sexually, causing the staid and faithful Rooster untold pain. Trouble is, the Goat needs more sex than the Rooster, which creates feelings of inadequacy and a lack of self-confidence in the Rooster. (Duh! This is the story of all of us on the board!)<P>If Goat could be persuaded to stick around all the time and teach the willing Rooster how to be more sensual, their relationship might have a good chance at success. At least it would give purpose to the otherwise idle Goat's home life.<P>Under Goat Men: Reversal throw these fellows for a lifelong loop. For them to settle down and get anywhere in life, they must struggle harder, concentrate more and go against a peace-loving, retiring nature to learn to care about striving, pushing and aggression. When faced with failure after putting in an effort--they collapse into their original position which was--"Why bother?"<P>Aberrant sexual and social behavior, drugs and drinking threaten the male Goat's stability. He is often pessimistic, misunderstood, easily swayed and not always able to resist the temptation to veer into untrodden territory. He may be a near-genius in one area but otherwise feels himself a social misfit easily falling into deviant behavior.<P>Goat men are hypersensitive, strong but not classically forceful or macho. They are gifted, intuitive and discriminating. But their raw sensitivities make them vulnerable and may even lead them to dangerous, suicidal behavior.<P>(Thus my urgency at responding to you)<P>Goat men make imaginative lovers. They are the type to make love in the shower or in the laundry chute--just to see what it feels like. They are born eccentrics, which makes them naturally kinky. Sexually, they are human joysticks, more than willing to give as well as take pleasure. Altho my source has frequently heard women complain of the ineffectualness, irresponsibilitiy and general inertia of their Goat partners, they never complain about poor-quality lovemaking.<P>You will often find Goat men who can't make up their minds between AC and DC and who prefer a bit of both.(!)<P>The trick to getting along with a Goat male is a willlingness on his wife's part toignore stereotypes. She must accept her man as a delightful love object, who may or not be rigorously or regularly productive in a a financial sense. If she can live with this shift in roles, she will have a good life as her Goat mate will always be malleable, easy to have around, undemanding of her time and willing to create or share in having fun. <P>Altho the Goat man is frequently AWOL in the concreate real world department, he cannot tolerate being ignored when he is there. Instead of saying "Hi, Honey, I'm home"--he'd more likely say, "Doesn't anybody around here care that I'm home?" Best you come racing half-way down the driveway waving hello when he comes home! Did I mention that he's hypersensitive? <P>As a Wood Goat (like 1955 born Bruce Willis, Maria Shriver, Debra Winger, Bo Derek, Isabelle Adjani): A little bit more balanced than the other type of Goats--more likely to survive harsh setbacks and carry on valiantly as if nothing untoward had occurred. He may be more creative and ambitious than your other Goat-types as well. May have a bit more optimism as well. Even under duress, he mannages to keep a smile or a joke on his lips. He will be less likely to crumble and surrender or strike out violently. (Whew!)<P>Given to mood swings, the Wood Goat gets depressed fromt time to time. He lives in a permanent state of moral dilemma. He is part hedonist--a regular lotus-eater, but wishes to be an achiever.<P>Here comes the contradiction: <P>Scorpio/Goats: <P>They are fascinating, interesting and extremely faithful to their partners! You win some, you lose some! They need outside structure for their talents to bloom. They often find themselves a hardy, clever stronger partner who lays down certain subtle rules and regulations so that they can get on with life. (Goat's thrive on deadlines and structure--they hate it but they need it. But the idea of accomplishing habitual chores is distasteful and dull - instead, have them do the grocery shopping at a different store each week!) This mate may not seem strong at all, in the same way that the Scorpio/Goat's appearance of fragility will serve as a cover for his inner strength.<P>As far as your H's role as a father, they claim to be very interested in it--they definately require the affection they get from children and enjoy returning same (does your H like Christmas?) but while they are indulgent, they are not the most conscientious. They are the type to forget to pick up the kids at the sitters. In severe cases, they are probably better off having a dog (they are incredible animal lovers). <P>If you are doing battle with a Goat: He is a powerhouse of passive resistence. Usually they depend on the kindness of strangers for their survival and resist making decisions/have non-committal attitudes. But they know how to employ the strength of the weak. They are masters at clandestine manipulation. When angered they are capable of concocting life-consuming pain inflicting vendettas or achieving their own ends thru patiend and painful picking at scabs on the enemy's body. If you have a Goat for an adversary, you'd better hire a battalion of brilliant and wily advisors because there is practically nothing you can do to but a dent in this creature's sluggish ego or confound his determinatin to beat you at your own game thru endurance and behind-the-scenes machination. (Just in case you need that info for future reference--but that's beyond plan B!)<P>If you love one of these people, get ready for a lifelong struggle. <P>There you are--I'm rushing so sorry for the typos. Hope it's literate and timely. Good luck and prayers to you, tt.<P>Aloha,<P>Leilana<P>P.S. As a Gemini/Rooster--if you were a man, I'd have to marry you!! If you want a personal profile, let me know--I didn't get into it now because of your focus. {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}, tt. No matter what happens tonite, you are surrounded by caring vibes coming from me and everyone here on the board--you are never alone, Hon.

Boy, did you describe my H. I know exactly where I went wrong....in the past two years...but hey.... I have three kids... and as far a sex... We were way above national norms for amt. and fun???<P>But, I've had my issues this past year with him working so much...I was passive aggressive in the intimacy department. He felt neglected... <P>Well, look at him now... an OC on the way.<BR>UG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!