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Trusting the long-awaited change.
#397358 08/30/00 06:50 PM
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I tell you the truth. I have become so accustomed to battling emotionally that I found myself restraining the urge to attack my husband's return of affection.<P>Sunday, when he returned to his affectionate self, I told him, "...that's not funny..." He did not pull back when I initially rejected his display of affection.<P>Well, as much hard work that has gone into this marriage, ie. pain, heartache, etc., I hope the battle can be something we're fighting against, but this time on the same team.<P>I shall keep you posted. [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P>Enjoy your love.<P>------------------<BR>Love hurts no one.
Re: Trusting the long-awaited change.
#397359 08/31/00 09:19 AM
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I think that's a normal response. We become very guarded from the hurt...and when the spouse's behavior turns more positive, we may almost want to ignore it or "wait it out", just as we may do so for negatives. Then you think, "Hey, what was that...was it...NICE?"<P>You can get used to nice. [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."<BR>(Proverbs 15:1).
Re: Trusting the long-awaited change.
#397360 08/31/00 10:34 AM
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It sounds as if, for whatever reasons, you are both emotionally withdrawn from your relationships. Therefore your defenses are up, and you're not accepting his attempts to fill your love tanks.<P>As he continues to try, and keep a very positve, loving, and non-pushy attitude, do a couple of these love units slip in here and there? Do you continue to appear emotionless and un-affected on the outside as you don't feel that he is yet worthy of a positive reaction?<P>Just curious as I am in his situation, although it's from years of not meeting her EN's.

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