Bernzini,<P>Finally! <P>If you were born 3/2/67 you are a Pisces/(Fire)Goat--goat, sheep--same thing...<BR>If your H was born 12/20/63 he is a Sagittarius/(Water)Cat--cat, rabbit--ditto! My H is a kitty/bunny, too.<P>Cat with Goat:<P>Altho initially they seem ill-suited, this pair will undoubtedly develop a solid love relationship. Cats and Goats are complementary. The Cat provides the dependent, creative Goat with just the right amount of down-home security and the hypersensitive capricious Goat amuses and keeps the Cat interested.<P>Cats are serious and steady. Goats hardly ever follow the rules. Altho normally disconcerted by such nonchalance the Cat finds it disarming in a love partner. The Goat respects the Cat's sound judgement and takes solace in Kitty's ablility to cope in a routine fashion.<P>The Goat's capacity for total surrender in love situations melts the sexually resistant (?!)Cat's frozen little heart. Their romantic life is dense with passion. Tenderness and marathon caressing sessions are the order of the day. <P>The fewer children this couple had, the better. The Goat requires so much personal attention and caring from a Cat spouse that a brood of children who distract the Cat might make him or her cranky and jealous.<P> Pick and trash what you will of the above! That's just generic. <P>Specific to your Cat man:<P>If and when he decides to marry, the Cat prefers a woman whose pedigree and manners, appearance and behaviour border on perfection. The Cat man feels that everything his wife is and does reflects upon him, colors other people's image of him and may make or break him in life. He wants to be seen as correct and upright in society. He has a rather pristine approach to love. He would rather be married to a princess in an ivory tower whom he never gets to touch or romp with - simply because she comes from a good family and, as she's sequestered up there in that tower, her presence and moods would pose no threat to his personal harmony. (Bernzini, were WE supposedly that princess?) <P>The Cat man's woman must suit his ideals and his plans for life. If she doesn't, she's out of there. <P>Cat men are paranoid about women's designs. They never quite take them seriously and always think they are being duped. They almost always refuse to share their innermost thoughts and secrets with their lady friends. If you love a Cat man, you may grow frustrated and even fed up with he wall of chronic silence concerning emotions that he erects between you. If you suggest counselling or psychiatry as a way to find eachother, he will most certainly balk and run the other way. Mr. Cat doesn't want any third parties or strangers prying into his private life. Fortunately, he may mellow with age. Even tho the male Cat is know for being selfish and too reserved, he always comes to the fore when he is asked to come to the resue of someone he loves. Cat men love to play hero. An ailing or despondent wife will receive all of his gentlest attentions. The Cat is generally faithful to his mate as well and if he ever cheats on her it will be in very unusual circumstances. (?!)<P>This part is I have a problem with but here it goes: Perhaps because he lacks the gift of easy intimacy, the Cat male is rather inhibited in the bedroom. He likes things to be too pleasant, require an excess of perfection and has an exaggerated, puritanical sense of decency. As a result, altho he boasts a hearty sexual appetite, his creativity in lovemaking leaves much to be desired. He goes thru the rutual motions with alacrity and skill but remains stonily silent, leaving his partner out of his sexual sphere and often chilling her to the bone. But if you are a patient and nurturing sexual partner, the reticent male Cat lover may present just the challenge you have been waiting for. Teach him how to turn himself on and he will follow you anywhere.<P>Nicholas Cage is a water kitty, as is burnedspouse--those born in the year 1-25-63 to 2-12-64: They are cautious and live for security. Because of this they usually live to a ripe old age. True love and commitment often escape this character's clutches, too. He falls in love easily and is enthralled by romance. Yet the water Cat won't fight for his rightful position in relationships, rarely speaks of his innermost feelings and keeps his own counsel when confronted by the threat of conflict. His dream love is so idealized and vague that he often makes grave errors when seeking a mate, so carried away with his ideal that he forgets how difficult it is to live out one's dream.<P>My source goes on to say: Despite a penchant for taking up with the odd weirdo or dating a nutty art student or dancer, the Water Cat doesn't conceive of himself as departing from the norm to live any type of Bohemian or even freelance life. (Doesn't apply to my Cat, but just thought I'd throw that in there for you) <P>The Sagittarius/Cat in love: This person tends to engage in multiple subsequent relationships. There is a great deal of sexual energy here. Much of the energy is, of course, covert and pent up. One doesn't think of any Cat subject as a sex maniac. But the Sagittarious/Cat is a bit of a tom. He skulks about marking territories and claiming some that don't even belong to him. By the same token, he may not hesitate to "cat around" with other people's mates. The Sagittarious/Cat is not really unfaithful. But the need to be admired is so enormous here that sexual fidelity is impossible. Personal fidelity is, however, very serious for this character. He may love 'em and leave'em but he never forgets those he has cared for, and is careful to keep old friendships alive.<P>He is very self interested and cares deeply what others think of him. <P>So you are in love with a Sagittarius/Cat? My suggestion is that you look up to him. Stroke and cuddle this mettlesome Cat, but don't try to keep him by the fireside. You must remember that your admiration is pleasant to him, but it's never going to be enough. This person needs to be loved by a cast of thousands. If you can keep from being jealous of your Sagittarian Cat's large following and put up with his constant primping and preening in front of prospective admirers, I guess you can take the heat. But I don't think long-term affairs or marriages with this crowd-pleaser are meant to be shared by any but self-sacrificing types.<P>Frank Sinatra was a Sagittarius Goat. <P>Well that one sucked! But don't let it get you down--I'm a Libra/Snake and my profile says I'm "too gorgeous to be forever faithful to just one person". LOL. So you can't believe everything she writes! I think the Kitty's faithfulness toted earlier under the Male Cat profile tones down the wild-child Sagittarian. Just be aware of the potential.<BR> <BR>As a Fire Goat YOU share a birth year with Boris Becker, Keifer Sutherland and Julia Roberts, Beerman2's W's OM and NotGivingUp's H.<P>It says here the Fire Goat: is a walking emotinal holocaust. Passion rules your existence. No matter how she tries, she cannot react collectedly to stimuli, remain cool in the face of insult, appear aloof when provoked. She is given to theatrics and flies into rages or succumbs to nervous prostration. You are too sensitive by half and require a steady partner who can make all the difference to the success or failure of the Fire Goats's life.<P>But you are renowned for your charm and your ability to affect others thru a quality we might call refinement. Charisma is your strong suite. Your gently manner and aura of mystery attract others. You are talented in the extreme but require top-notch guidance to ensure your perseverence. <P>You must not be obliged to handle your own finances--hire and accountant.<P>You are not dishonest but are just thoughtless and inconsequential about spending. You squander recklessly--yours as well as other people's money. Those that know and love you are hereby warned to keep a tight rein on the joint account and hide the credit cards. Fortunately, you are also incredibly lucky. (Buying the occasional lottery ticket is allowable!)<P>A Fire Goat has a short fuse. When angered she doesn't know how to keep her antagonistic feelings under her horns.<P>The Fire Goat is drawn to causes that seek to improve the quality of our inner as well as our outer lives. The best professions this person can choose and often takes the lead in would be ecology, health professions, nutrition or alternative medicine. Or things that have to do with mysticism, philosophy, the subconcious, occult science or perhaps physics or other mind-liberating sciences.<P>A smart Fire Goat can make a herself a handsome fortune in these and other New Age pursuits. But she must surround herself with honorable and sympathetic associates who will never give her the key to the safe.<P>Under just plain female Goats: Goatliness is next to godliness. The women, the Chinese Goat sign is a blessing. Being born a female Goat allows a girl shamelessly to display enhanced femininity, plot, plan, and connive all she wants and even to lean lusciously and profitably on a big strong he-man without so much as a twinge of feminist regret.<P>Nanny Goats are often successful. Intuitive and sympathetic, reacting hysterically or excitedly, appearing delicate and sporting eccentric, up-to-the-minute fashions are all socially acceptable womanly attributes. Peer acceptance, coupled with the Goat's remarkable artistic talent, plus her essential gift for creativity and lightening-streak perception pave even the roughest road towards a fruitful, productive life for the intelligent she-Goat.<P>"Intelligent" because the Goat woman should know how to bst use her exceptional attractiveness. Elegant yet childlike accessibility and susceptibility are the first things that strike one about Goat females. Then, their eyes appear almost misty and their gaze distant, which adds to an aura of mystery that many members of the opposite sex find irresistible. They also move well, gliding smoothly across a room. Goat girls exude helplessness, charm and vulnerability. People trip over eachother to try to take care of you.<P>In love relationships, Goat females are noted for their penchant for flirting and even "fooling around" on the side. (Don't shoot the typist!) It could be that like Snake women (moi), Goat ladies need the attention of many male admireers. Or maybe it is simly impossible for her to resist the onslaught of suitors who scurry to do her favors. But (my source) believes that this naughty she-Goat habit of taking several lovers at once evolves benignly from her innate Goatly desire to make other people happy. <P>As for their sexual habits, they may be rather innocent in bed, and like to be "taken" by their man. Initiating sex may not be at the top of their list but they are not against some kinky game-playing and may indulge in a little S&M if it pleases the gentleman in question. The Goat woman is both pliable and shy. Her entire resistnace artillery amounts to the odd verbal rebuttal or sharp rejoiinder, usually folllowed by a giggle, a sigh and surrender.<P>Your beauty is your best assest. <P> A good career is oftenbthe best refuge for the clever Goat woman. <P>In marriage, Goat women are at their best and most serene. Matrimony (especially if it provieds material security) affords her a solid identity of which she is proud. The Goat is at her happiest when tethered in a fertile field.<P>Many Goat women marry several times, and few are single for long. (But she relates their high divorce rate to the Goat's tendency to "jump the fence" so often!)<P>And you stay maddingly friendly with old boyfriends and ex-lovers. You will need a secure husband who can tolerate this. <P>The centrally important factor in your life which counts for your health and emotional peace of mind is <B>security</B>. <P>Goat women must beware of the temptations of drugs and especially of alcohol addiction which provides a false sense of security and confers a kind of "Dutch courage" on habitual imbibers. If not for this, you would make an excellent hippie!<P>As an amorous and fanciful young adult you may experience some devestating romantic disappointments. But luck shines in the third part of your life, bringing love and security to coddle your tender soul. <P>I'm about to break one of my rules for you Bernzini: For all goats--Try courting an eloquent Horse. Horses know best how to work hard for others. Bat your eyelashes at a refined, homeloving Cat or - better still - grab yourself a scrupulous competent (and often rich) Pig to lean on and love for life. Avoid Tigers and Oxen. They don't approve of your capriciousness.<P>One of my biggest no-no's is giving out exactly which signs a requestor would be most compatible with. Your putty-tat is in there so I'll use that as an excuse. But if you ever decide to date in the future--call me first and I can give you specifics!<P>As a Pisces/Goat: Her choice will probably settle on some tough person who guides and regulates her life/career/bath-taking/meals and so on. The Pisces/Goat is a passionate soul whose thunderous love-making gets novels written about it. (This would be the Pisces influence taking over the Goat's recitence, I guess--as my H is a passionate Pisces Cat). <P>Those that become the chosen person or who wish to be attached to a Pisces/Goat had better be the type who takes over. Even the most rigid tyrants has trouble domesticating Pisces/Goats. They don't understand schedules. They have no routines but their own to adhere to. Time means nothing to a Pisces/Goat, or at least, nothing we ever heard of. So if a person is attracted to this wonderful looney, they better not hold him down. Pamper her. Who knows? The Pisces/Goat might be the next Michelangelo.<BR>(An ancient Pisces/Goat)<P>Now I have to go back and read all your most recent posts and hope I haven't inserted my foot in my mouth too badly. <P>Anyway, hope you enjoyed it and it didn't offend you too much. Nothing worse than a mad goat! <P><BR>Aloha,<P>Leilana <P> <P>

Aloha Leilana,<P>Yeah, you are awesome! You got it right on the dot with both of us--too weird!<P>Sexually resistant cat--yes, he is not too imaginative when it comes to that kinda stuff. Not too passionate, but does have a lot of sexual energy--with that, we do pretty good, none the less. Kinda like a cat, sex-wise. Likes to roam, wham, bam, thank you ma'am. At least, that's the way he was before we married. I was only the second serious relationship of his lifetime, and I married him when he was 32.<P>And that's why I never once would have expected him to fool around--he never seemed to be into that stuff. Actually, he disapproved in the extreme of infidelity, and constantly reminded me because he was jealous (yes, you're right about that, too. I remain on friendly terms with old loves--but friends only!) I guess you are right about the unusual circumstances for an affair. He was trying to comfort himself.<P>(We had had a fight--I left Hawaii in a huff, and moved to Seattle, waiting for him to catch up. He thought that I had "up and left him." I just wanted to show how mad I was for something he did--long story, don't have time to go into it.)<P>You're right. I am over-sensitive, capricious, have a pretty rough temper (but you would never guess because I am kind of mild-looking and usually keep my mouth shut, unless I am mad, of course.) And I really do love to spend money, though I keep trying to deny that. You got it on the sex part, too. I like to play nice--but I'll submit.<P>And I am pretty cute, too, though I have had very few boyfriends. I have been married twice, even though I did not date too much. I have a tendency to look at men as friends, (and I have a lot of male friends) until I find one that I especially like. Then I devote my life to him until I can take his crap no more. (Like my husband's insufferable tendency to keep everything to himself--and his jealousy--and his distrust--and his expectations of a proper, refined trophy-wife who never has temper-tantrums. And then HIS temper-tantrums on top of that!)<P>The only reason I have three kids is because I have been married twice. I love my kids, but I am pretty much done with the reproduction part. Except, before I found out about the affair, he and I loosely talked of MAYBE one more. . .someday.<P>Way too many more coincidences to go into--you really did get it right on!<P>But, hmmmm. The third part of my life for happiness and security--I'm only 33. Does that mean I am done with hubby, the cat? This part makes me worried and sad.<P>As mad as I am still, I hope not. Maybe later on when he settles down, we'll figure something out.<P>But cool! Thanks so much for the reading! You're great!<P>Mahalo!!<p>[This message has been edited by Bernzini (edited August 31, 2000).]

Cool - but I guess I should have left out that part I was hesitant to add. If it's making you second guess your resolve - mea culpa. Your compatibility in general is VERY good. Remember, "...initially they seem ill-suited...this pair will undoubtedly develop a solid love relationship."<P>That's better than the majority of these profiles I do!!<P>Kitty is listed as one of your <B>top</B> compatibles. So many people (me included) don't marry <I>any</I> of their listed compatibles - top or bottom of their list!<P>Now you know what both your strengths and weaknesses are from this aspect, it's up to you to work on building them up and using them to your advantage for your marriage.<P>More power to you, B<P> <P>Leilana<P>