Let's see how far I can get on this today. I gotta pack up in a little while as we're going away for the weekend. Like I did for TMD, I may have to do your profiles in spurts. <P>Luckily, I've read some of your lastest posts so I know more or less what your focus is and what doesn't apply in your situation.<P>You were born 5/03/79 (the baby of the board! Don't mind me, I'm real motherly and can't help but think of you as being as cute as a button!) and that makes you a Taurus/(Earth)Goat<P>Your H was born 4/15/72 making him an Aries/(Water)Rat (too funny!)<P>I alluded to some of this yesterday:<P>Rat with Goat:<P>This is a tricky one. The Goat enjoys the loving Rat but finds the Rat's nervousness unappealing. The Goat's peaceful nature appeals to the snuggly Rat but Goatly lack of interst in the menial tasks of everyday life will cause the Rat to fuss.<P>The Goat will not want to clear up messes or groom the home, and, being such a fusspot homebody, this laziness will grate on Rat's nerves. The Goat will spend money on unnecessary objects and it won't be long before the Rat feels overburdened by responsiblities and the lack of security brought on by the Goat's desultory attitude.<P>This household is in a constant state of cold war. The Rat worries quietly and the Goat lacks the necessary initiative to loosen up his troubled mate. All their battles will be fought with under-hand tactics, and vicious stares (and throwing of nudie pictures in barber shops ). The Rat will long for a partner with more oomph. The gracious Goat, not courageous enough to confront the Rat (usually!), will resist lethergically. The Rat remains helpless in the face of rank ineptitude. <BR> <BR>(I think you gave him some oomph and then some! He should be careful what he wishes for!) And now for the fun part...<P>Their feelings of inadequacy will be put to rest when they have sex. The Goat is so sensual that she can exert power over the Rat. Filled with sexual excitement, the Rat will be happy to feel dominated. Confident, and clear of conflict, the Goat may see this as an opportunity to discuss some of their differences. If the physical union is strong, this couple may learn to iron out their basic differences on the pillow.<P> <P>Now as a Taurus/Goat in love:<P>To hear jilted Taurus/Goats talk you would think of all their various "exes" (husbands, boyfriends, companions) were but a pack of thieves, pimps and hooligans. Taurus/Goat like to be loved - and cared for. She needs enormous security and is not very apt at providing same. She also needs praise. But she can't very much give of either. Taruean Goats simply have to be loved for the part-time jollies they can give. They have no staying power in love. They fly off the handle at the slightest forgotten birthday or wedding anniversary. They attach importance to roses and Valentines. But they might just forget your cat in the refrigerator overnight. For serious mates, Taurus/Goats are exasperating.<P>And Taurus/Goats need srious mates. They cannot function in a couple where they have to wear the trousers, bring home the bacon or bathe the baby. Taurus/Goats can--and only just--create. They have no sense of time (I don't believe any of this, by the way, since I read your last thread!), no memory for anything more important than their mate's credit card numbers and they refuse to see the reason to change.<P>If you are prepared to be strong and tough and police the everyday life of some adorable but violent and wacky artiste, run out and lasso yourself a Taurus/Goat. Taurus/Goat is an inertia worshiper. Yours is probably just sitting there prettily waiting to be discovered in a long-defunct Hollywood drugstore.<P>Ugh!! Does this astrologer dislike Taurus Goats or what? Sounds like she had one for an ex husband herself once! That sounded too vindictive. Sorry about that one, Caroline. I'll give you a generalized Goat, female Goat and then Earth Goat profile next time. And ditto for you drowned Rat!<BR> I promise it gets much better.<P>Aries/Rat in love: <P>In the beginning, Aries/Rat never has much trouble in love. The young Aries/Rat is energetic, attractive and wily enough to seduce and conquer easily. Moreover, the younger they are, the more flexible and gentle the Aries/Rats allow themselves to be. So parties and dancing, dates galore and even some social drinking will play a big part in the Aries/Rat's early adult life.<P>But middle age, work, responsiblity, kids, social status and the necessity to acquire material wealth has a toning-down effect on this subject. They mellow backward. That is, they start out tender and gentle, funny and silly and by middle age take every love affair as seriously as Hiroshima.<P>This reversal of the fun-in-love pattern stems from the grown-up Aries/Rat's unhealty preoccupation with doing the right thing. Where most people loosen up as they grow into their thirties and forties, the Aries/Rat tightens, stiffens, and panics. Am I old? Am I ugly? Should I diet? Will I please? As an adult, the Aries/Rat is plagued by self-doubt in love. For this reason, when an Aries/Rat of a certain older age falls in love, you can hear the thud for a thousand miles around. Beware of the elder Aries/Rat who adores you, calls you thirty times a day and sends you so many flowers you'll wake up one day and think you're already in your coffin. It's love, Aries/Rat style. <P>Something for you to look forward to anyway!! <P>See you later, CB--have to go and pack now.<P>Will continue this miniseries when I get back. Till then--keep up with the pillow talk!!<P>Aloha,<P>Leilana