My H has moved stuff back into our garage, forwarded his mail back to the house. He still see OW but less and less. Is seeing S and I more and more. Came over Friday to give my child support money a week before due. H is still behind on child support. He went back over to OW this weekend to do what who knows. H is under alot of pressure to sell at work, if he doesnt produce he could be let go. Do I continue to let him come and go, Do I say I love you but if you keep it up with OW get out of here. H also stays with his parents. This is sooooo very hard. I seem to cry alot, but i crued alot when he wasnt coming here at all. He says she is a b--ch. I ask him way he stays he says he doesnt know. She has called the cops on him for domestic violence. He says he cant spend the night with me until he knows he back 100%, but he stays over there. He is in a world of hurt financially more then what i knew about, but im finding out since the mail is coming here. Please any advice and prayers are needed.<P>Thanks<BR>Michelle<P>oh ya OW has no idea his stuff is here. or mail is being sent here. Where she thinks it is I have no idea.<p>[This message has been edited by tigger (edited September 03, 2000).]

The confusion these WS's go through is mind-boggling. <P>I think I'd have to say to keep up letting him do this and plan A.<P>Sounds to me as if she is doing enough withdrawals on her own. I take it as a plus that he is spending time with you and S.<P>I know you miss him, but it looks like you have a great chance at having him come back.<P>Let her do the LB's...... you keep taking care of yourself and S and try to put as many deposits in as you can!!!!!!

Michelle:<P>This is one case in which I think you ought to continue with what is working and not rock the boat...you are definitely seeing progress here.<P>Remember baby steps and patience...everything in it's own time.<P>Looks like OW is self-destructing on her own so just sit back and let it happen. Confusion is to be expected on your H's part...he's trying to free himself from her...be prepared for a period of waffling between the two of you...just lower your expectations and ride with the flow. <P>Our prayers and hopes that this has a favorable outcome are with you.<P>Buffy<P><BR>

No advice, just admiration and encouragement. I remember how you protected your son from being taken out of state to visit the OW. You earned your Mother wings when you did that.<P>Wiser heads than mine can offer you advice on the recovery phase. But here's a hug.{{{{{{tigger}}}}}}}<P>------------------<BR>Belle, Domestic Goddess

Thanks all for the advice encouragement and all. I will be very honest if it wasnt for this sight, my friends here, and friends at home I dont think I would be where I am at today.<P>Thanks and Love,<BR>Michelle

Michelle...<P>Keep with Plan A...<P>...you are closer than so many of us...<BR>...and <B>you're seeing progress</B>!!!<P>Hang tough...<P>PTC!<P> <P>Jim

Thanks everyone alot of times you all are what gets me threw the day. Thanks eeveryone