Good morning all.<P>I have to go back to Cuba, My Visa for Italy expired two days ago so i am now illegaly in this country. I cannot comeback unless i am married to my new guy. The divorce will be finished in about two weeks, i never asked anything from the divorce, not even one cent to finish it fast. My H never accepted so it has to be done by Power (rebeldia). I am getting married to my uncle, well my uncle is going to sign in the name of my fiance because my fiance cannot go to Cuba right now for Job situation. I am all confused still. Yesterday i went to see the movie "Never been Kissed for those that i had seen it, i felt like this new guy is my Pinguin. Oh man, can you believe i am 22 and i am in this whole mess? I think you are right thisALEX, i do feel with him as my father, the father i never had since the real one left me when i was 2 years old. But than if i get married i will never be able to talk to him again, and it disgust me to think that my husband feel like my dad. YUck!!<P>My Fiance will not give me the time i need, well to tell you the truth i had had plenty of time and i am still all out of my mind. When i take the plain is my last decision, i get married or return to my H but i cannot live in this uncertanty anymore. I am tired of all this thing, i am tired of not knowing what i want in my life. I have to make a decision. One day a friend told me " Look Lety, you got to think in your happiness not in the happiness of other, for once you are happy you will make happy everyone else" I think is true, i think to mutch about how does my H feels and how this guy feels, and never about how i feel. <P>I will take sometime for my self today and think what Lety wants. What Lety thinks. What is letys dream. What Lety will do. I got no option i have to do it, i t is now or ever. Just simple. Just difficult. Not impossible.<P>Thanks to all of you that had had compasion for me and help me out in thiis mess.<P>With love.<P>Leticia.

Leticia,<P>Your "new guy" as you call him, is he OM? Can't you get married without going to Cuba? Is getting married the ONLY way out?<P>I didn't know your father left you. I am sorry. So he left, you found a surrogate father in your first husband (that's what parents are for, no? to help us grow and to go through our mess). So what is this new guy? A new father? A big brother?<P>If you MUST be married to stay in the country make an honest arrangement with H or this new guy and get professional counseling. The solution is within, not outside; YOU ARE THE SOLUTION, not this, or that or that other man.<P>Yes, you have to think about your happiness but first you have to find out what is what would make you happy "…what Lety thinks, what is Lety's dream. What Lety will do". There are options, give yourself a break.<P>If you want to talk more privately (or in Spanish) send me a note to Alex_1921@hotmail.com (nobody else has access to this address).<P>Love you.<P>ThisAlex<P>------------------<BR>If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them because they have helped you learn about Trust and Awareness.