I just found out that my BF of 16months has been cheating on me g=for the last month. I have been suspicious of this and would ask him about it, but he would deny it constantly. On Sunday I found an email from the OW and confronted him he still denied it. I then emailed her to see what was going on. That's when she told me that he said we weren't together but he just lived with me until he could find a place. He apologized to me after I spoke to the OW but now I don't Know if he is sincere or not. I kicked him out because I feel so betrayed by this man that I love so dearly. I don't know what to do.<P>------------------<BR>

I'm so sorry that you are going through this! Living together still has the same kind of commitment feeling as marriage does, so I know you are hurting very deeply from all of this. <P>How did you boyfriend react to his being kicked out of the home you share? <P>You should read as much as you can about the marriage builder principles here. Even though he is out of the house, you can still do a lot if you want to try and salvage your relationship with him. I don't know how your thoughts and feelings are regarding that at this time. The hurt can be so devastating that it's difficult to understand what is going on and how/why things turned out as they did. But there's hope, if that's what you are looking for.<P>Vent out here on this site, there are a lot of people who will come to your aide. And a lot of good advice from those who have been here awhile. I found this site a month after discovery, and it has been about 3-1/2 months now. The pain and disappointmentn of it all is still here, but I know have better skills to cope. Think clearer about taking positive steps to help myself and my situation.<P>My heart goes out to you. Take care of yourself, MT