Anyone read Dobsen's book Tough Love.Any thoughts,MB principles versus Tough Love principles?beth

Hi Beth,<BR> Yes, I read both books.I kind of did a combo plan you might say. Although I did plan a,I always felt that all by itself it wouldn't give H the motivation to do what he needed to do. I think it is a very individual thing. I started to lose my love for H the minute of discovery. I would never have been able to do a pure, long term, plan a.I just don't have it in me.When H decided that we really needed to separate,I informed him that he didn't have forever to make up his mind as to whether or not he was coming back. I think that, knowing that, sooner or later I would move on, as well as seeing the positive changes I made through plan a,helped to keep our separation to the short time period of 2 months. It made H really motivated to get down to work in his own individual counseling and figure out what he wanted without delay. How are things going for you?

Hey beth...<P>From the archive of old posts...<P><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum1/HTML/010263.html" TARGET=_blank>Readers of "Love Must be Tough" - Please Reply</A>…..Roll Me Away….12/1/1999<P> <P>Jim