I posted a message yesterday about my H having an intimate emotional friendship. We talked last night only after I presented him with the facts that he has not broken contact with the OW he admitted to it. I asked him if I could review his cell phone call log just to satisfy my own paranoia..he said I could and that I wouldn't find anything. He had called her three times that the log showed and when I showed it to him, he try to change what he had originally told me 2 minutes prior and make it seem that I had misunderstood him. Bottom line, I told him we can not move forward and fix the marriage until he breaks contact with her, totally, it is her or me so to speak and that this means no lunches, no walks nothing...he said he chooses our marriage and will end it with her today. <BR>My question is, should I ask him about it...knowing that he will have cleared his cell phone log tonight before he get's home and that he will look me in the eye and lie? I want him to know that I expect him to have ended it so there is no misunderstanding. <BR>Or should I assume he has and do some investigative work to learn otherwise?

cpickel,<P>At some point you want the separation between your H and the OW to be clean and complete...<P>...SAA recommends writing a "separation letter"... on page 58-59 of <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi6070_sa.html" TARGET=_blank>"Surviving An Affair"(SAA)</A><P>Send me an e-mail about it if you like... imherczeg@yahoo.com .<P>Jim