MY WIFE AND I HAVE BEEN TOGETHER 16YRS. WE HAVE 3 CHILDREN ALL BOYS AND I GUESS SHE FEELS LEFT OUT OR SOMETHING?SHE GOES OUT 4 DAYS A WEEK AND RTHINK SHE HAS FOUND SOMEELSE<BR>SHE SHOWS NO INTEREST IN ME OR THE BOYS. WHAT DO I DO?

Welcome <B>Nick</B>...<P>I'm glad you found your way here... <P>One thing about posting/replying...<BR>Type your words in lower case letters...<BR>When you type in all "CAPS"... it means you are <B>yelling</B> (Internet/chat/BB protocol)... it's ok... <P>I have a general welcome post I wish to share with you... <BR>(I do this for a new forum posters)<P>It has a lot of quick links to many of the <B>most</B> important MB sites...<BR>Click here ==> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000002.html" TARGET=_blank>General Welcome for All New Builders(Newbies)</A><P>Any <B>underlined</B> words are "quick links" to some other site (either at the forum or outside the forum)<P>For some clarity... a short time ago the "main" forum was divided into 4 separate "sub" forums...<BR>Staying in the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/cgiwrap/marriage/forumdisplay.cgi?action=topics&forum=General+Questions&number=28&DaysPrune=10&LastLogin=" TARGET=_blank>General Questions</A> forum will give you the most responses! <P>We've spoken earlier...<BR>If you have time tonight (assuming your W isn't home yet)... give yourself a leg up on our talk tomorrow...<BR>Spend most of your time reading about <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A>...<P>I mentioned to you earlier about some help for anger management... check out...<A HREF="http://www.anger-stress-marriage.com" TARGET=_blank>Anger & Stress Management Communication Skills for Marriages and Relationships in Conflict</A>.<P>I'll see you tomorrow... baring a big snow (so far we have about 1.5 inches here!)<P>If you want to practice with the forum...<BR>"click on <B>Post Reply</B>" and you can type a new message that continues on the same "thread"... of your original post. <P>Jim<p>[This message has been edited by NSR (edited February 03, 2000).]

i thank you for all help.i was looking for that list of things to do from plan A .i could not find it

Hi Nick,<P><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A> is basiclaly a 2 part plan...<P>1. Avoid all <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3400_lovebust.html" TARGET=_blank>Love Busters</A> <=== click here.<P>2. If your spouse lets you... meet as many of your S's <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3300_needs.html" TARGET=_blank>Emotional Needs</A> <==click here.<P>Both of these attempt to regain/rebuild that which you had during your early "passionate love" years...<BR>and<BR>deposits "love units" into your <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3200_love.html" TARGET=_blank>Love Bank</A> (a theoretical bank of how much your W loves you)<P>The goal of <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A> is bring your balance of "love units" up to a level that you had when you were passionately in love with your S and vica versa. This gives you and edge over the OP(Other person).<P>Keep reading...<BR>(again... click on the underlined words!)<P>Do plan something for Valentine's Day!<BR>Think of letting her back into the bedroom!<BR>Don't blow up... when she puts you down!<P>Jim