I've been reading and reading, from here to I dont know how many books I went out and bought. I need to KEEP MY MOUTH SHUT!! I went through the begging stage, (still want to) but I am going to STOP. My new knowledge MUST stay to myself. One thing that struck me last night in a book called "tough love" when you and your spouse were dating you didn't go around saying "please marry me" " I can't imagine living my life without you" bla bla bla!!! Can someone post a LIST "DO THIS" "DON'T DO THIS" Didn't know it was such a lb!! H is in the spare bedroom, and I just don't know... Yesterday he told me (before he left to go see her) that he was finding fault with her, "thats good for you". He thanks me for showing my love for him. IS THIS LOVE???? Bye honey have a good day with your lover???? His son called last night, the one that talked to my d a couple of nights ago. He said what the Hell is he doing?? I said don't know. I didn't tell him about the ow. Thank-you Ron! Guess I never knew how he felt about me and my kids, he really did care! He said hes throwing away a good thing. Oh well, one day he will wake up, will it be enough????? Cross that bridge when it comes I guess. Anyway back to my point IM KEEPING MY MOUTH SHUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!