I had an affair, and now I find out I have HSV-2! Although the culture and blood tests have come back negative, ALL signs point to me being positive for genital herpes. I now need to wait another three weeks to take a second blood test, which STILL may not prove anything for lack of antibodies in my system. The only way to know is another culture if and when I break out again. HOW DO I TELL MY HUSBAND!!?? How long can I make excuses for not having sex with him? I love him. This is awful. What's worse...the affair or the STD? HELP, please. J.

judee, I am the wife of someone who just confessed to having HSV. We have been married for 12 years and he just told me. After the shock and thousands of medical questions, I am thrilled that he no longer has to carry his awful burden alone. Healing and restoration is possible if you seek God's help. <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by judee4u:<BR><B>I had an affair, and now I find out I have HSV-2! Although the culture and blood tests have come back negative, ALL signs point to me being positive for genital herpes. I now need to wait another three weeks to take a second blood test, which STILL may not prove anything for lack of antibodies in my system. The only way to know is another culture if and when I break out again. HOW DO I TELL MY HUSBAND!!?? How long can I make excuses for not having sex with him? I love him. This is awful. What's worse...the affair or the STD? HELP, please. J.</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>

Nothing is to be aided by putting off the truth any longer. You have to tell him. He may be harboring the herpes virus already and needs treatment. What a dirty world we live in. I contracted cervical cancer from my husband's affair. I believe after 2 yrs. God has allowed me to survive, but it will be with me the rest of my life. I don't know how my remorseful husband lives with himself. Peace lover

Ladies, I would just like to add a male perspective to this thread. My W too contracted HSV as a result of her affair.<P>This is something that we will have to live with for the rest of our lives. . .and my W wants desperately to have another child. . .<P>judee4u -- You need to tell your H. I understand how difficult this is to so, but he needs to understand what is happening. Get as much information as you can, and have it on hand when you talk with him. But you need to tell him.<P>God Bless

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Empty Shell:<BR><B>You need to tell your H. I understand how difficult this is to so, but he needs to understand what is happening</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Dear Empty Shell:<BR>Thank you SO much for responding. That is exactly what I needed to hear...a man's point of view. Is it possible for us to e-mail each other? I sure could pose a few more questions directly to you. Thanx. J.<P>

judee4u -- Feel free to Email me anytime.<P> MB_Empty_Shell@hotmail.com <P>God Bless

Judee4u -- You have mail.<P>God Bless

PLEASE tell him! <P>*I* have two STD's thanks to my ex husband and him cheating. They just found a cyst on my cervix yesterday. <P>I want so badly to hate him, but I can't. He was and is still sick from his dependancy to crank. As sick and scared as I am with these two things and now a cyst, he is living his own private hell. <P>No man will ever know what it is like to be on a cold table in a cold room for 3 and 1/2 hours with your legs spread wide open while tears stream down your cheeks. The whole time you ask yourself over and over WHY? WHY did he do this? Why couldn't he just leave in the beginning instead of sleeping with both of us and trying to make HIS two worlds isolated? <P>My Higher Power has made my schedule up now. I have no idea what is in store for me. I have 2 boys and a foster son that need me and depend on me. <P>I have a fiancee that truly loves me and we are have been happy for 2 years now. He has stayed with me through all of this. <P>I just wished I wasn't put in the middle of his drugs and cheating. I didn't deserve it, and neither does your husband. Afterall YOU, just like my ex, are the ones that forgot your vows. <P>Why punish the innocent? I pity you and think you are paying the ultimate price for your decision to stray. <P>Please tell him before another person has to carry the disease with them as a daily reminder.<P>Peace~<P>F.B.H.<BR>Female Bounty Hunter<P>

Can you get yeast infections as a result of an affair? My H has been having internet affairs, and I have been suffering with re-curring yeast infections for the last 6 months. I've tried everything to prevent them, to no avail.

Dear Toots-007, In regards to your question about yeast infections, if you're sure it's yeast then it can be an organism that resides within you without being introduced sexually. It can become sexually transmitted though in the sense that you can pass the yeast to your sexual partner. Then you treat the infection and your sexual partner doesn't. Then your sexual partner reinfects you. Both partners can be faithful and have recurrent yeast infections.

Peace Lover, I'm not so sure that yeast can be passed from partner to partner...<P>Toots, have you had a full round of STD testing? Including (dare I even mention it?) HIV? If not, you should. Also, note that trichamonas has symptoms very similar to yeast infections, and IS an STD.<P>Don't panic, there are many things that can cause recurrent yeast infections, including STRESS (like that caused when your H sleeps around). Try to keep your sugar intake down; sugar also fosters yeast growth. Take Acidophilus capsules to adjust your body pH. Plain yogurt applied topically can also help relieve symptoms.

to Toots 007, Maybe you have diabetes which<BR>can make you have re-occuring yeats infections, our bodies have yeast also the<BR>men has it as well. Please get yourself checked for diabetes.

To Dazed and Confused, In mentioning the passage of yeast from one partner to another I am only quoting from a medical book in my house on STDs. I'm a nurse in an STD clinic and have seen it happen there also according to patient complaints and history.

Dear Toots007, help for yeast infections - a natural remedy. Bulgarian yogurt, the kind with the bacteria in it, comes in a huge container (not the cute little colored and flavored fruit stuff they sell) and it should be applied internally (if you have an old yeast medication applicator lying around the house, use it - put the yogurt in and apply.) very soothing, doesn't have the offensive color and smell of the yellow yeast medicines. ALso, if you use BC pills, can make body more susceptible to the bad yeast bacteria. Luck. signed, Venus<P>------------------<BR>Venus