Hello,<BR> I'm JDQ. The letters all mean something to me, but that comes later.<BR> I'm a 36y/o F STBX is 40<BR> We met when I was 15 and he just 19. Our courtship, if you will, started when I was 16. We were "engaged" for almost 4 years, marrying when I was 19 and he 22. <BR> We were married just shy of 5 years when our first daughter was born. our 2nd came four years later. <BR> We would have been married (guess we still are) 17 years this month.<BR> I'm the betrayer.<BR> He was the betrayer through pornography, I later learned(although I confronted him back in '91), was an ongoing thing, and I'm sure it will continue to be as he doesn't realize what it does to a woman/relationship.<BR> I filed last March, and when we had our first court hearing for temporary orders, he officially moved in with OW(the OW wasn't a factor at the time of filing, although, to be honest since learning more about his "honesty" I really can't say for sure about anything regarding this area) He had an EA back in 1985, but because she moved to another company, it ended. He admitted to me that it could easily turned into a PA, and again, I can't tell you based onwhat he says it didn't.<BR> He plans on getting married, or at least that what he has told our daughters, as soon as our divorce is final, which could be this month.<BR> I don't bear any "ill-will" toward his present SO .<BR> Not sure what else to say.<BR> Thanks for having a place for us so we can feel we're not alone. I wish I'd known about it during the last holiday season. That was THE MOST difficult time as he was taking the girls over to her house while still living here. Very dark times.