MY HUSBAND TO 2 AFFIARS, CUT OFF CONTACT AS SOON AS I FOUND OUT. SAYS HE LOVE US (2 KIDS) AND WANTS TO MAKE IT WORK. HE CANT LIVE WITH HIMSELF.. HE CANT UNDERSTAND WHY HE DID IT AND IT SCARES THE HELL OUT OF HIM. HIS REALLY IS A GOOD MAN. (WE'VE BEEN BEST FRIENDS SINCE HIGH SCHOOL) HE LOVES HIS KIDS AND ALWAYS SHOWED ME THAT HE LOVES ME. EVERYTHING IS EITHER RIGHT OR WRONG WITH HIM...HE KNEW IT WAS WRONG AND CAN'T BELIEVE THAT HE LET IT HAPPEN. HE SAYS HE IS SORRY ALL OF THE TIME. HE MOVED OUT TO "GET HIMSELF TOGETHER". ALL OF HIS SPARE TIME HE IS WITH US.. STRAIGHT FROM WORK...STAYS LATE...AND GOES BACK TO HIS DADS PLACE. HE SAYS HE DOESN'T DESERVE TO COME HOME UNTIL HE CAN MAKE HIMSELF UNDERSTAND WHY HE DID IT?? I REALLY DO LOVE MY HUSBAND VERY MUCH, <BR>BUT I CAN'T GO ON LIKE THIS FOR VERY LONG.. IS THERE ANYONE OUT THERE THAT WENT THROUGH WHAT HE IS GOING THROUGH NOW?? CAN YOU GIVE ME ANY INSIGHT?

Unfortunately he may never understand how he could do this...nor will you. But one important thing he can do is to get into counseling and do some self-examination and look at issues in his life and in your marriage that contributed to his bad decision. I suggest that you go to counseling as well.....you have a great deal to work through yourself.<P>There is a great book titled Torn Asunder by Dave Carder that I highly recommend. It is my favorite book on the restoration of a marriage after an affair and is written for one or both spouses to read. Check it out......<P>------------------<BR>"They that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength. They shall mount up with wings as eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint." Isaiah 40:31<P>

Patches<P>Do you feel comfortable enough to let him view MB. It can be very helpful and it may take him hours to read all that he needs to read. You both need to read the articles and the forum area and I would suggest some conceling for both of you. I wish my W was as repentful as your H.<P>Good luck!!<P>J W