I just read the Plan A and Plan B outline. I have a question. My wife is still in her under graduate classes with OM and they will have the same school schedule for the next three years because of thier choise in studies. I have looked at other ways but can't find any. There is only one class, one time, one teacher, one day that her classes are offered. If she tries to get out she loses all of the past 5 years in this field. Granted she could go to another school, but we can't afford it. Since she works for the Hospital owned by the school, they pay for 90% of her education. So I am kind of out of options on wanting them to totaly stop all contact because it is near impossible. She assures me that they have already agreed to keep it on a platonic level, but I know that if she was weak once, It may happen again!! If anyone has any other suggestions, please help!!!

Fulgore,<P>"...because of thier choise in studies..."... they are to be with each other for 3 years...<P>Is your W willing to change her "choice of studies"?... to stay in for her B.S. ... but a slightly different program.<P>Without it... a separation from the OM... it will mean a continued doubt in your mind?...<BR>Do really think she can have "a platonic level" relationship with the OM?...<BR>Do you think you can live with this kind of "relationship" for 3 years...<BR>...and if they are in the same area of study what does that mean about contact (at the professional level) after studies?<P>I don't know the answer to this...<BR>You can't know with 100% certainty either? Can you?<P>You say "There is only<BR>one class,<BR>one time,<BR>one teacher,<BR>one day that her classes are offered."...<BR>Is there also only <B>one relationship</B> that is in question here?! Your mariage?<P><B>No contact</B> is oh so very important.<P>"...I found out about the other guy by going through her e-mail. I found some very unsettling correspondence..."...<BR>Is this really indicative of an affair?... that is your judgment call...<P>"...She admitted to flirting and kissing but that is as far as she let it go because she knew it wasn't right..."... is fact...<BR>so the existence of the affair... is crystal clear...<P>When counseling is started...<BR>...it has to stress the no contact concept...<P>Brainstorming here is very important...<P>My prayers to you and your W!<P> <P>Jim