My husband constantly looks at pornography on the internet, which doesn't bother me unless he's doing it obsessively. However, I was always weary of chat rooms, but never really argued about it becasue it would always be a 'chess' chat room or game room. anyways, I was looking for something I had downloaded before on the computer and i found all these pictures of naked girls that he didn't realize automatically stays in the computer (he thought they never registered outside his email). So I looked in his email, which i never had before because i had no reason and i found email messages from other women. they didn't say too much but the usuall friendly stuff, but when i confronted him about the pictures he said he didn't know they were going to be naked pictures - but why would he want them either way. Then i asked if he talked to girls by email and he swore up and down he didn't. I through the emails at him that i printed out. We talked and I thought he had stopped but i went into his email to check up and i found out he's still talking to one girl in particular and she sent him her picture (per his request, may i add) (and fully clothed). So I went into his 'club lists' and found out he had a bunch of cybersex lists in there (this is in excite). i just found this out a little while ago and he KNOWS that i consider this cheating and i told him the only reason i would ever leave him would be because of cheating and that i wouldn't give it another chance. I haven't even confronted him yet becasue he's still at work. I don't know how to handle this....

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<small>[ January 31, 2005, 10:38 PM: Message edited by: hanora ]</small>

This is a sign here. A sign of unmet needs. You need to get this on the table before something happens. <BR>Prayers<BR>Renee<P>------------------<BR>

How is it going? What have you decided?

Hey, I know what you are going through. Even the games are a danger...believe me. That Casche is a pretty tricky thing. It tracks the pictures of every site you've been through so that you can download it quicker. <P>In our case the computer went bye bye. (It was borrowed to begin with, but it still would have been tempting to rid our house of the machine even if it was ours.) I'd say right now that the best alternative is to come up with a POJA for computer use. Print out copies of what POJA is for your husband, And the one on total honesty. Then negotiate something that is satisfactory for both of you. <P>It will be real tempting to demand your way, but that will build resentment.

Hey, I know what you are going through. Even the games are a danger...believe me. That Casche is a pretty tricky thing. It tracks the pictures of every site you've been through so that you can download it quicker. <P>In our case the computer went bye bye. (It was borrowed to begin with, but it still would have been tempting to rid our house of the machine even if it was ours.) I'd say right now that the best alternative is to come up with a POJA for computer use. Print out copies of what POJA is for your husband, And the one on total honesty. Then negotiate something that is satisfactory for both of you. <P>Here are the links:<BR> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3500_policy.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3500_policy.html</A> <BR>It will be real tempting to demand your way, but that will build resentment.

<BR>Hey, I know what you are going through. Even the games are a danger...believe me. That Casche is a pretty tricky thing. It tracks the pictures of every site you've been through so that you can download it quicker. <P>In our case the computer went bye bye. (It was borrowed to begin with, but it still would have been tempting to rid our house of the machine even if it was ours.) I'd say right now that the best alternative is to come up with a POJA for computer use. Print out copies of what POJA is for your husband, And the one on total honesty. Then negotiate something that is satisfactory for both of you. <P>Here are the links:<BR> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3500_policy.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3500_policy.html</A> <BR> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5041_qa.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5041_qa.html</A><BR> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5041_qa.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5041_qa.html</A> <P>It will be real tempting to demand your way, but that will build resentment. <P>Sorry guys...go to search out the URl's and come back and edit. End up with multiple copies. If the leader would delete the duplicates I would greatly appreciate it.<P><p>[This message has been edited by beth28 (edited April 25, 2000).]