My wife has been acting weird for several months now. She's very secretive whenever she's online and she gets mad whenever I come in the room and accuses me of spying on here.<BR> I ordered some keystroke logging software and installed it on her computer to see what she was doing. I almost vomited when I first read it. She's talking like she's never talked around me. She's having a couple of online affairs and they get very serious (online sex, etc). I also suspect she had a physical affair a couple of months back but she denies it.<BR> What should I do? Do I confront her? This is complicated since she accused me of spying on her Internet activites and I denied it. I don't know what to do, but I know this isn't good for me physically or mentally. I still think she's the best woman in the world and love her with all my heat but I'm afraid she'll leave me when I admit I spied on her. She'll overlook that she was having an affair. I also wonder if maybe I should email the other parties. Some actually seem like decent guys and she's lied to them also. She's told them all that she's either single, divorced or seperated.<BR> Any help or ideas would be appreciated.<BR>

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My wife did the exact same thing and it did turn physical. I used a key logger to get the info and when I had irrefutable evidence I confronted her........woke her up at 4am in the morning actually. She admitted it was all true. It was the worst pain i ever felt. She was addicted to the net pure and simple. <BR>I have no doubt had I not confronted her she would have continued on until some 'gentlemen' finally convinced her to leave me for him.<BR>

Hello hurtinNC,<P>I am so sorry for what you are going through. I see your original post was a few days ago. How are you doing? Have you confronted your wife?<P>If you haven't done so yet, read through Dr. Harley's materials on this site, especially his basic concepts. This is what saved my marriage after my discovery of husband's online affair. He was confused at first, and did have a hard time withdrawing from his online lover, but if you follow these guidelines I believe you will have a much better chance at rebuilding your marriage then if you do not.<P>Good luck to you.<P>periwinkle

Well, I played like this person emailed me about one affair. She admitted to this but didn't admit the others at first so I figured she'd keep lying to me. All of a sudden she burst into tears and told me about everything. I was very kind and supportive and I think we have a chance to work it out. I accepted her apology and her promise that she was going to stay out of chat rooms. I really think that she is sincere but I will continue to monitor for awhile just to make sure. Wish me luck!