Greetings,<P>Well its been one of those weeks. I have found it is easier to do day to day things without the stomach wrenching heart ache I constantly feel though.<P>Let me update everyone interested.<P>I talked to my wife today (May 1) I have not spoken to her in days, she called to find out what the childrens guidance councilor had to say (I had to see her today at 1:00), we talked about that then moved on to what we (I) am going to do over the summer months as far as child care. I told her about the summer camp program that the Rec Center does, the snag is it costs $175.00 per week (this is the best price for services I could find). I asked her if she would be willing to help out and pay half.. this is where the fire works started, she told me that is what she is paying me child support for ($250.00 biweekly) I told her I could not swing it financially and I needed her help to do it. She told me no. She was very angry with me for even asking, so I told her I would work it out some how and quickly tried to change the subject. I asked her about her visitation tonight (we agreed she would visit Monday, and Friday nights, as well as take the kids to their Pokemon tournaments on Tuesday nights) she said she would not be able to come visit tonight I asked her why (I generally leave her alone with them when she visits) she said she had things to do, ok, so I ask her about Tuesday night, again she did not know for sure if she was or not.. My problem.. why wont she visit the kids? Its not that she does not want to see me because I will leave the house so she can be alone with them, so why is she punishing them by not visiting? Same with calling, she finally gave us her new phone number (still wont give me her address) and said the kids can call when they want to, but since I never know when she is home, when they call her they get upset when she does not answer (no answering machine to leave messages) so they do not call much, she never calls here but then yells at me for not having them call her.. THEY DO she just is never home! She does not have her own car yet (she is getting one by the end of the week) So I offer to take the kids to the mall to meet her, to a park, whatever.<P>Its only been 12 days since she left but it seems she is less and less interested in seeing and talking to the kids. This is killing them with heart ache, I do my best to reassure them but my words only go so far.<P>I have kept the courts out of everything, we have a written agreement on everything from support payments to visitation to my having full custody. But now it seems as every one of her agreements with me are not going to be held up. I do not want to file (she asked me not to file for support and whatnot) and I feel if I went and filed anyway (I am afraid she will not pay support this week, this would be the first payment she would make) it would cause just one more rift between us to develop.<P>What do I do? I have stopped talking or asking her about us, I leave the conversations topics based ONLY on the children, I don't want to pressure her or make her feel trapped when she talks to me. I need advice. What do I do?<P>My Problems:<P>1. She never calls here for the kids and when the kids call her she is never home. I get yelled at for not having the kids call her cause she does not have an answering machine for them to leave messages so she thinks they are not calling.<P>2. She can see the kids when ever she wants to, I will take them anywhere she wants me to. She never wants to see them but tells me I am keeping her from the kids.<P>3. She agreed that she would help out with child expenses (her support covers little since we have no local family or available friends to baby sit and I have to use professional services. I currently use the Rec Center for after school care while I work), but now says she wont help and her support will have to cover it.<P>4. I do not have her address (I have NO CLUE where she is living, I only know it is with him.. they got an apartment together) and legally I do not have to let her take the kids to her place since I have no idea where it is, but she gets angry with me for telling her that she can only see the kids for now at 'neutral places'.<P>I don't know how to make her happy yet feel safe myself. I just do not know what to do. Any advice would help.
