My parents have been married for like 20 years. I know this is for married couples but I just found out my mom has been cheating on my dad. They are getting a divorice and I was wondering if it was at all possiable for them to remain friends??? My dad still loves my mom yet I feel betrayed by her. All I want is for mom not to be with that guy because i know he doesn't love her because it was a one night stand. I was just wondering if i could get some advice on how to help my mother to realize she can do better than that scum and maybe probably not but maybe repair their relationship. Please Help!!!!<BR>

KC,<P>So much depends on how open your mom is to accepting information that is on this forum...<BR>...you can't force it down either parents throat.<P>If they don't do the Internet thing...<BR>...books may be best...<P>For your mom... maybe the following may help...<BR><OL TYPE=1><BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0802477488" TARGET=_blank><B>Torn Asunder :</B> Recovering from Extramarital Affairs</A> by Dave Carder, Duncan Jaenicke, David A. Seamands <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0393307077" TARGET=_blank><B>Private Lies :</B> Infidelity and Betrayal of Intimacy</A> by Frank Pittman<BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0966875907" TARGET=_blank><B>Straight Talk About Betrayal:</B> A Self-Help Guide for Couples</A> Donna R. Bellafiore <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1580621376" TARGET=_blank><B>Surviving Infidelity :</B> Making Decisions, Recovering from the Pain</A> by Rona Subotnik, Gloria Harris <BR></OL><P>For your dad...<BR><OL TYPE=1><BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.heartmenders.org/hmtapes.htm" TARGET=_blank><B>First Aid for a Wounded Marriage</B></A> by Marilyn Phillipps <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0553477897" TARGET=_blank><B>How One of You Can Bring the Two of You Together</B></A> by Susan Page <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0786866314" TARGET=_blank><B>Relationship Rescue </B>: A Seven-Step Strategy for Reconnecting With Your Partner</A> by Philip C. McGraw, Phillip C. <BR>McGraw <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0881791296" TARGET=_blank><B>The Solo Partner :</B> Repairing Your Relationship on Your Own</A> by Phil Deluca <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0399521372" TARGET=_blank><B>We Can Work It Out :</B> How to Solve Conflicts, Save Your Marriage, and Strengthen Your Love for Each Other</A> by Clifford I. Notarius, Howard J. Markman <BR><LI> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/031057370X" TARGET=_blank><B>When a Mate Wants Out :</B> Secrets for Saving a Marriage</A> by Jim Conway, Sally Conway <BR></OL><P>The Harly books are also good...<BR><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi6070_sa.html" TARGET=_blank>"Surviving An Affair"(SAA)</A> by Dr. Willard Harley<BR><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi6020_needs.html" TARGET=_blank>"His Needs, Her Needs"</A> by Dr. Willard Harley<BR><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi6030_love.html" TARGET=_blank>"Love Busters"</A> by Dr. Willard Harley<BR><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi6010_give.html" TARGET=_blank>"Give & Take: The Secret to Marital Compatibility"</A> by Dr. Willard Harley<P>It is admirable that you want to help your parents...<BR>...just be aware of your limitations too.<P> <P>Jim