ok...I screwed up. I asked my husband had ow tried to contact him and he told me he had a few messages on his voice mail at work. I asked him what the messages said and he said he didn't really listen, that once he heard her voice he erased the message. I am not sure if I believe him. I probed further and he says all he heard her saying was that she was sorry for calling me and wanted him to call her.<BR> I thanked him for being honest but then I got sooooo angry I couldn't help it I called her. I know I wasn't supposed to according to MB principles but I was P'd. <BR>I asked her to please stop calling my husband, I told her that he wasn't going to talk to her and to stop...she let out this little laugh and I lost it and called her a bunch of really nice names. I hung up and of course I am sure if I ever ask him again if she called he won't tell me....what now..just continue with Plan A and counseling? I'm a basket case.

It happens to everyone...<P>To recover...<BR>...tell your husband you called and lost it with the OW...<BR>...apologize to him... for your loss of control...<P>Have ZERO contact with OW from now on.<P>Get moving on all aspects of Plan A...<BR>No LBs...<BR>Meet those ENs...<P>We all fall off the Plan A band wagon...<BR>...get back on it!<P>hey...<BR>You too are loved!<P> <P>Jim

You are not the only one. Read my post under "Reponse from OW" Yes, I messed up too although I didn't resort to name calling. It was more of a "How could you do this?" e-mail followed by an apology e-mail for the first one in which I sounded utterly pathetic. I am resolved to do this no more.<P>Jim's right. We all fall off the band wagon sometimes. We have to forgive ourselves and move on. You can do it. Good luck.<P>May God grant us all peace and understanding throughout this mess.

I was thinking about calling her too. My post "OW keeps calling my H" on Jun 6 was exactly same situation. I haven't called her YET, trying to think about another way around. What else can we do? I'm thinking about writing a letter to my H to be honest w/me because I want to trust him. If I talk to him, I know I'm gonna blow up again. I'm just kind of waiting for the thing to cool down a little before I write the letter. Just an idea...

alien, don't do it!!!!!! No matter how much you want to. Please read my posts under "Response from OW" It was the worst. Now I know all sorts of things that I really didn't want to know. I really didn't want to know how much "soulmates" they were. Plus, she then contacted my H which sets our withdrawal clock back to zero.<P>No contact. This is a must. Do not give the OW the power to see how devestated and hurt you are. That just gives her a reason to keep going, and then you will feel like a fool. Trust me. I know.

thanks to everyone...I will never do that again. It set me back to zero just hearing that voice again.