Thanks Jim,<BR>No we are not in recovery yet... I'd like to, but not sure how much he wants to... We'll both have a session with Dr. H, so I'm waiting for that.<P>He came home and told me that they saw her car at the parking lot, so went to a different bar. Avoided a contact just by accident, if they'd gotten there first, she'd come in. <P>Then my H said he told that he might go there to another common friend of my H and the OW, I'm sure she heard it from him and waited for my H to come in. SHE IS AFTER HIM. Her H is divorcing her, she has nothing to lose anymore.<P>I mentioned my H about a wierd phone call from our phone company, a woman asked me if we were moving and disconnecting our phone, her reason asking me was "I might have wrote down a wrong number when the customer called." A phone company wrote down a wrong phone #, and didn't ask the customer's name? Give me a break! It's a small town and it's frightening, she could have her friends anywhere.<P>Another thing bugged me was that I didn't tell him about this phone call until last night because I thought he'd think I'm paranoid and crazy. He didn't, and even tried to think of who that could be instead.<P>I guess the woman could call from anywhere and has nothing to do with phone co. I know I'm in too much detail and that doesn't matter, just can't help venting out somehow!<P>Maybe we have to take some kind of action to cut contact off... I suppose it comes back to if my H will agree to follow MB or not. All right, I'm done. Thanks for letting me talk!