Well, another weekend, more trouble with me and my wife. <P>She left thursday night to go and meet her online lover, they are currently at Niagra Fall, or they said they were going there. *sigh*<P>I got a job, and been really nice since all this came out in the open, but now. To add to the insult and hurt, she left with money that was supposed to cover some medical expenses.<P>I kept asking her not to go, but she repeated 'she had to know'. Funnie thing was, she called friday morning and said she loved me so much and would never leave me, and ended it with 'but I have to meet this person'.....<P>She is supposed to come back tomorrow sometime, and I feel really yucky all by myself here, the house sounds really empty. She promised to call me when she got there, but I have yet to receive a single phone call, makes me worried that something might have happened...<P>Shish.. dont know what to do anymore.. wish I atleast had someone to like talk to about all this..<P>/Mik

Snowmane,<BR>We all know how you feel. Read and post. Lots to learn on this site. You are doing the right thing. She will come back to you if you are nice to her. Read NSR's General Welcome, and read posts here and in General Questions. I don't have words of wisdom but other experts are here to help you. You are not alone. Good luck.

Yeah, this is a good site with lossa info about stuff like this.. problem is, its so hard to think clearly atm.. I have no idea what to do.. I tried plan A, but she refused, and I really am too stuck for plan B.. <P>And, the saddest thing still is, I still love her like crazy.. =/ Geez, I really do.. wonder if that makes me more of a target for her whims than anything else.. See, I am not american, I am here based on a marriage visa, and if we divorce, I am tossed out of the nation. Dont really have much to go back home to since most of my family is gone.<P>I am also starting to feel really depressed too.. shesh.. <P>My plan is though, she is supposed to come back tomorrow, I cleaned the house and outside... I got some flowers, roses, a nice card, put it all by the front door.. along with a photo of us in Spain.. does this sound like a good idea or not?<P>Craps.. just so hard to trying to think clearly.. <P>

Dear gods.. ya know, after more thinking here, I am really feeling like going to the hospital.. problem is, I can't afford it.. and wouldn't it just make her more upset that I couldn't 'hack it' for the weekend?

Snowmane, hang in there. Stay stong in Plan A. Some people here have been working like crazy for years. You can do this. Gosh, these online relationships are tough. Whole new worlds open up. If it hadn't been for the Internet, my H wouldn't have rekindled the fire with an old HS flame. You can do it though. I know its hard. I struggle every minute, but I know that I can do it. Are you truly alone? Do you have a friend at work or a church group? Of course, you can always come here, but it's really not the same as having someone in person who will listen. Good luck to you. I'll keep you in my prayers. My prayers seem to get longer as a add more and more peopel on this board to them. What a sad way to become a part of someone's prayers.

Newp, I really have noone here, we live right in the middle of nowhere.. I think that has been a large part of all this too.. <P>*keeps looking at the time*

<small>[ January 31, 2005, 10:31 PM: Message edited by: hanora ]</small>

Snowmane,<BR>Hang in there. I'm not american either, no family around in the middle of nowhere in Wisconsin. How long have you been married? Did you get married in the US? How long have you been living in the US? Didn't you apply for green card? Do you have a job? I don't know what marriage visa is. Were you planning to go out of country later on? Otherwise you should have been able to apply for green card. Or isn't she american?