Hi, JL,<BR>I wouldn't be surprised if you have had your fill of me and are thoroughly disgusted and frustrated! If you read my posts today, I think all your chipping away at my concrete block of a head is starting to work, maybe a little. Would love your sagely thoughts...<BR>Bear with me, I really am ready for "Calgon take me away!" Enough is enough....<BR>I am feeling empowered - we'll see...<BR>Thanks, A

Annc:<P>I think JL is out of town until next week.

Hi Annc,<P>I am back from a short vacation. So tell me what kind of trouble have you gotten yourself into now? Told the H off I see. <P>Did it help? Sometimes the air does need to be cleared abit, so don't worry to much about it.<P>And by the way, no I haven't written you off and neither has anyone else. You should have quizzed K at length. He is the pro at Plan A and Plan B.<P>There has been a long suspicion, that he is really Steve Harley. But I wouldn't menetion that to anyone. <P>So tell us what you are doing.<P>Hope today is/was a better day.<P>JL

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Just Learning:<BR><B>You should have quizzed K at length. He is the pro at Plan A and Plan B.There has been a long suspicion, that he is really Steve Harley. But I wouldn't menetion that to anyone. </B><P>That is so funny! I had my first consultation with Steve this week, and he mentioned that rumor about K!<P>AnnC -- Lostva had a great post in EN today that totally had me reassessing my so-called "Plan A". It spoke of the crucual need to project your own confidence and faith in the marriage. You can give all the great backrubs, make the dinners, hit every EN over the wall, but if you are frequently, as I am, being uncharacteristically quiet and depressed (or worse, combative)due to your own introspective thoughts about the marriage, your partner can't help but loste faith. In other words, the commitment has to start with you. Don't worry, be happy. It is contagious, she said.

Hi, friends,<BR>thanks for posting - I will quiz K - need all the help I can get right now. NOt sure what I want...<P>Well, eldest has pulled another one - it is Mon. night and she snuck out - right under our noses!! - put a magnet on the alarm contact on a window, and screwed up entire alarm! it is now after 1 a.m. Not dealing with this very well - I do not feel very well about H - not a very good role model with all his lies and deception! He is very upset with D saying he didn't do this at this age - ready to kick her out! I want to say so badly that he has not been a very good example - a hypocrite, but bit my tongue. Quite frankly, I am ready to "calgon take me away!" Not sure I want to remain in this relationship and not sure what to do with such a rebellious teen = she is just like his mom if you really want to know...<BR>I am ready to "jump ship" - this is not fun!<BR>H is not that great to be around anyway, right now - really question his whole feeling for us and me - not sure about anything. When I mentioned my priority about going to church on Sun. soon after discovery he was all open to giving up his golf game and switching to Sat. - that lasted a month - he is back to playing sun. mornings - I just feel sun. should be a church, family day and I am having a tough time "preaching" priorities when golf is his priority on sun. a.m. - not sure this will work. Not sure about "role model" - not sure I care anymore....<BR>Sorry to be so down right now...<BR>A