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if all circumstantial evidence (cell phone bills,discreet tracer,fact person works with her) points to` an affair and W has moved out do you point blank ask about an affair?
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If you ask, they will deny, deny, deny. If you know, then just tell them you know. Don't argue about it. She'll probably say, "I am not. Don't you trust me?"<P>DON'T ANSWER HAT QUESTION! Just tell her you know she is. Also, do not tell her HOW you know. She'll just get sneakier about it.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>
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Sad to say but usually, when you strongly suspect, you're right. And when confronted,,,they'll lie. You can present all your evidence and she'll come up with some far fetched explaination, learning to be more careful,more deceitful.
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Dear Maxidog99:<BR>You said that your w moved out. do you want her back? If so, what are you doing? Why did she move out? Are you getting a divorce? How long married? There is no background about any of this, so, it is kindof hard to tell you what I may be feeling. I can tell you though, that if you are suspicous, sadly, yes it is probably true. Not always, but probably.
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Dear Maxidog99:<BR>You said that your w moved out. do you want her back? If so, what are you doing? Why did she move out? Are you getting a divorce? How long married? There is no background about any of this, so, it is kindof hard to tell you what I may be feeling. I can tell you though, that if you are suspicous, sadly, yes it is probably true. Not always, but probably. Do you ask her? Most likely she will lie about it. Why would she tell you the truth? If she wanted you to know, she wouldn't be hiding it.
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I have to go along with the others, the only answer you can believe is: yes she is.<P>Affairs and lying are inseparable.<P>Personally, I asked quite often.
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That's what I want to know too. My husband is coming to pick me up from work in thirty minutes. I don't know whether I should ask him about "Dawn's" number I found last night, or to just play it off like nothing's wrong.
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Moniex,<BR>I don't claim this is the "right" thing to do but I'd ask him. Infact, that's exactly what I did do. And immediately after he "explained", I called her number and asked her. Unfortunately, I didn't plan this very good. Although I had enough sense to call before he could contact her and plan a story with her, he was in the background as I talked to her and she could hear him still trying to explain. She went right along with his feeble excuse. And I was foolish enough to believe them. <p>[This message has been edited by Nerlycrzy (edited August 23, 2000).]
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