Hello,<BR>I've posted mainly on EN board but am beginning to think I need to be here. Is there an already existing thread about signs of an affair. <BR>Right now my h has not been completly truthful about his outings. He's more secretive and taking more out-of-town trips. I don't know maybe it's in my head. Thanks

Yep...<P>Unfortunately there does exist threads like the one you are asking for...<BR><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum28/HTML/000985.html" TARGET=_blank>50 signs your spouse is having an affair (All found on this board)</A>…Triumph2….2/23/2000<BR>and<BR><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum1/HTML/007371.html" TARGET=_blank>What lying betrayers have said....</A>…Sweetpea….9/15/1999<P>Prayers...<P> <P>Jim

Thank you...I'm feeling pretty stupid here...

tessa,<P>Don't mistake your unconditional love and trust of your spouse as "stupidity"...<P>You gave your spouse a beautiful gift of that trust...<BR>...and now he is hurting it and you.<P>You can check out my collection of <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000013.html" TARGET=_blank>Notable Posts/Threads</A> posts.<P> <P>Jim

NSR,<BR>Thank you. I'll be sure to read some of them. This is the most confused, hurt andjust completely broken I've ever felt. I don't know where things stand, how deep things are, or what direction to go next.

Dear Tessa,<P>I'm sorry you are where you are. It's a terrible feeling to suspect your other half.<BR>Please read my posting on same forum.<P>Perhaps your suspicions are unfounded, but whatever, go with your gut feeling - it rarely lets you down. If you search - be prepared to find- and try to be prepared for how you will deal with it.<P>The 'time' aspect is a big pointer to something going on. My H was:<P>Constantly late<BR>Always asking where I was at a certain time of day<BR>Would tell me he would be home at a certain time, therefore making sure I would be home also<BR>When the time arrived when we should have met I would call him, and the cell phone would be mysteriously out of order.- a whole catalogue of excuses accompanies this scenario:<BR>the battery ran out<BR>it was down the seat in the car<BR>I left it in the car<BR>I didnt hear it ringing<BR>It mustn't be working properly<BR>I had it switched on silent<BR>.....and so it goes on....<P>try and be strong, think about yourself.<P>Post me!<P>Love Trish<BR>

Tessa...just saw on another post that you found out there is an affair...I am so sorry.<P>How are you doing?<P>Hugs--<P>Kathi

Ok, I read the 50 signs and I have a question... is there a tolerance or percentage that makes it look like there is an affair? I have 14 that match up or I can make a direct commment about.