I have been praying daily for my H as nothing I can do can change my situation. H gets home from work about 12:30 am so I have my prayer time for the hour prior to that so that I am prepared to deal with whatever may arise. I slowly notice little things. H is still caring on internet relationship but he has come to bed about 2 hours earlier than usual the last couple nights. We (my supportive friends) have been praying that God also convict OW's heart. I don't know who is resposible for the earlier disconnections but I am thankful all the same. H still doesn't want to make love with me, but he doesn't Pull away from my touch anymore either. <P>Now, heres what I need advice on. <BR>Part 1: I used to work in a place where I was in contact with lots of people men and women alike. Well one of my customers (a man) keept trying to set me up on dates, I always told him no and that I was happily married. I told my H about this guy and what he was trying to do. I was kinda hoping my H would come down and intimidate this guy so he would leave me alone. (My H can be verry intimidating when he wants to be.)<P>Part 2: my shift was over at 12:00 midnight but I would usually hang around about an hour or so and gab with the gal that was my replacement and wouldn't get home till about 1:00-1:30 I figured it wouldn't matter because he never stayed up to meet me when I did come right home anyway.<P>well...I no longer work there but now I wonder if he thinks I was fooling around because he has been very careless in his affair and made it very easy for me to find stuff at first. Is it possible he started this relationship out of vengence and retaliation and it got out of hand? And What should I do about it if he does have these suspicions. They are not true, I have always been faithful. I got to thinking about this because my mother-in-law (whom I get along with wonderfully) asked me the other day it I have ever had an affair and mentioned how careless he was at first and that just isn't like him to be careless about anything.<P>------------------<BR>Scared and lonely

This would be awful if this was the reason<BR>that your husband strayed. I think that you<BR>need to have a direct conversation with your<BR>husband so he can know the truth. You and he<BR>need to be totally open and honest with <BR>each other about everything. Good Luck

Yes, Bryan is right - be totally transparent about your relationships. <P>It could be a retaliation, and he wants you to see how you feel now that you are in his shoes.<P>Continue praying as well because sometimes the temptation can get out of hand when the heart and mind allow bad thoughts in.<P>Approach you husband gently.<P>All the best.