Well, I confronted my wife the other night. At first she denied but then when I explained how I knew, she admitted. She did ask me if I read the last messages (which I didn't). I wish I had... she basically told the OM that she couldn't do this beacuse she had too much to loose.<P>After we talked (I did stay calm for the most part), we both cried fussed and cried some more. It was a definate rollar coaster for a couple of days. We would be close and then we'd be upset with each other. I was mad about the things she said online plus her lying to me and she was upset with me invading her privacy. After a weekend of turmoil, we finally sat down and discussed more about how each of us felt. I've mad mistakes in the past about telling her the truth so after I forgave her for this she was finally able to forgive me for my past problems. We're trying to start fresh and on even ground. Yes, we're both still hurt inside but we both love each other and I think we'll get through it. She has stopped communicating with OM. I told her it had to be her choice but I'd prefer if she didn't have contact with him and she agreed. We both seem to feel closer to each other than we have in a long time. She's working harder on appreciating me and do things to make me happy and I'm doing the same. We've kinda discovered why we first fell in love with each other. If anyone has suggestions on where to go from here, let me know. I want this to work.<P>Thanks for all the help. I'll keep you posted on what happens