Hello All<P>I have posted before regarding my attempts to Plan A which are proving difficult since my wife left on D-Day.<P>She has been to the house today to visit the children and I have been trying to dicsuss "us" with her in a non-angry, respectful way.<P>I have told her repeatedly that I still love her and want her back and would do anything to prove my love for her.<P>However I am simply getting no hope back in return. When I asked to call me at anytime even just for a chat she said that she would never have reason to. When I asked for a better idea of what she felt was wring between us (trying to confirm which ENs weren't being met) she wasn't particularly forthcoming and spoke abour us in the past tense i.e. "we never DID anything together" rather than "we never DO anything together"<P>I am getting the impression that I am wasting my time trying to Plan A as my wife appears to have already hardened her heart towards me.<P>Or is this typical "fog" behaviour due to the fact that she is at the early stage of an EA/PA with OM.<P>Any advice would be gratefully received.<P>Thanks<P><BR>HarryHat<BR>

Harry,<P>typical fog behavior. My H was convinced things were not repairable and that D was the only option. Let her know that you love her. Don't expect her to engage in any "what can we do to save the marriage" talk. You may not get any positive signals for a while. You dont have to tell her how you will do anything for her etc.. just do it. She will notice eventually. Dont quit plan a so fast it takes time for them to notice. <P>At this stage of the game she is only interested in herself and OM. She will not be receptive to your feelings or doing anything about her marriage until she starts to come out of the fog. <P>cleo

HH...<P>Cleo hit the nail on the head...<P>Stick with Plan A...<BR>...results in the WS are rarely quick...<BR>...results in a better you are easier to find!<P>My W was like yours from D-day on...<P>my 13+ months of a good Plan A...<BR>...was my time to heal....<P>Don't be afraid to travel the right path...<BR>...there is a reward at the end of it...<P>It might not be what you think you were searching for...<BR>...but it is <B>oh</B> so worth the effort.