<BR>I tried and I tried,,,, I prayed and prayed.<BR>H had been acting aweet and nice lately, even wanted to take me to concert.. Today I'm looking in the closet and happen to hear a odd conversation between H and unknown person. I heard things that I know were explicit and i had enough.. Upon confrontation he accused me of snooping and being paranoid and that he doesnt snoop on me. i told him that he was heard clear across the room and I should be able to walk into my own bedroom w. out hearing this crap . he walked out in a huff.. acame back a couple of hours later and tried to act like nothing happened.. i don't get this.. I told his mother and she doesnt get it either... She doesnt really know the whole story yet... I know it's a LB, but how can I be doing Plan A w/ H carrying on like that. He acts like nothing is wrong..... like that conversation never happened.. Am I going nuts?<P>Furious

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I've been in counseling since Sept and my next appointment is in a week. He knows I'm in counseling, but doesnt believe in seeing them. he's a doc, so that doesnt make sense. I'm still Plan A'ing but it's hard when you get this stuff thrown at you

Fury: How awful for you! And your reaction was human. Don't let the H. try to turn the table around on you, trust me I know this from experience. I don't have any good advice, but I put a block on my telephone, H. can not use it without pass code, and I have caller ID. If called does not leave name/number, the call is blocked. H. can not remove it. My only suggestion, is that you concentrate on you. Let go of his behaivor, and be responsible for your own. Let him see how confident, brave, and strong you are without him. It seems to me, that he thinks you will fall apart if he leaves, so right now he is the winner. I know how that feels, I've been there too. Good luck, gn