I don't know what to do. Last night on the internet I used the "back" button on the browser and discovered my wife's e-mail messages. She is messing around with someone else!!!!! I confronted her about this and she said that he is a long-time friend and they had a moment of weakness and he kissed her. "I didn't kiss him back!" What BS is this?? It takes two to tango, right?!? I sent her a long e-mail expressing my displeasure with an order to cease and act like a married woman. The e-mails showed her intentions and to me that is just as bad. I also gave that ******* an e-mail this morning and let hime know that I am on to them 100% and to cut it out or else. Part of me wants to bolt, but part of me wants to stay home for the sake of the kids, I can't stand being without them. I never thought I would be "betrayed", I have officialy joined the ranks and it sucks. I've been an emotional wreck since last night, I don't think I can ever forget or forgive this crap. how can I trust her with anything now?? It's all demolished.

Texfiddler,<BR>You need to calm down and try to find out the whole truth. The more agressive you are at this time the more likely she will be pushed toward the OM. Give her a chance to explain. Yes, you will probably get the "just friends" routine. I've been there and it really sucks.<P>Keep your eyes and ears open. Don't let her know how you find some of the things you may find (email messages etc). She will make it that much harder to catch if she knows where your looking. If you find out information that just doesn't add up let her explain, but again don't let her know how you know. If her story changes or is not in line to what you found, then you will know something is going on.<P>Again, this is the time to think rationally. Keep a level head and proceed with caution. The wrong words or threats could end your marriage.<P>Good Luck