For those who saw my last post. It was not too good. I was feeling bad and needed to let it out. I feel better now! I called my wife at work and talked about supper and what ever! I just needed to hear her voice as to why I LOVE her and want to stay with her. I know that she is doing some bad things right now, but I hope plan A can take affect and change things for the better!<BR>I try to think about the good things and why I Love my wife. It helps most of the time, but it didn't this morning.<BR>I started a list of things titled "Why I Love MY Wife" on Friday to give me focus. Is this focus clouding my mind as to what is really going on? I don't know, maybe!<BR>If it helps me feel happy and not depressed, then it can't be too bad.<P>Thank for listening!

I didn't say what I was going to do!! I'm just going to keep plan Aing and try to meet my wife's emotional needs!!! That is about all I can do until she is ready to commit to the marraige and we both can work on it!!<BR>

Now that's the spirit! Sounds like the plan. I hope that after a while you will start to see some results to your efforts in Plan A.<BR>Best of luck and I think you are doing the right thing!<BR>AR<BR>

ihurt, great rebound. I was in the process of hitting you with a reply in between work and your back before i was done. Have you shared your list with her? She may like to see those reasons why you love her also.<P>Keep the faith, and the humor, I know it's in you and it does help. Thanks for your profound words in the past. These two quotes from you help me. So keep repeating them to yourself. <P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Just focus your mind on why you still LOVE your wife. The way she looks while she is sleeping, the smell of her perfume, the smile that she has, the way that she laughs,etc....<HR></BLOCKQUOTE> <BR>AND<BR> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR> I want my wife back from where ever her mind is and I want and need her affection and admiration!!!!<HR></BLOCKQUOTE> <P>

I am 2 weeks in to this and you all help me more than you know! I realize the road is going to be long and up and down; however. knowing there are others going throught the same thing having the same set backs as I am is disheartening but comforting. I am so much better of a person than I was 3 weeks ago. Thus is the single hardest thing I have ever had to endure. with your help and help from God I now know I can do it.<P>It helps to get ideas of what to do to keep focused. Any other Ideas would help greatly.<P>Good luck and God bless.<BR>