Well, We had the mother of all arguements. I've been trying to Plan A, while H carries on with OW #1 via email and searching for OW #2. I've tried. Prayed, changed my hair, dressed better, cooked like Julia Child, fixed the place like Martha Stewart and still he kept up his foolishness. H was on call this weekend, or so I thought. If you're on call, you are in the hosp or at home, right? Well, I decided to go for a drive in H's car, because he took mine for some reason. I decided to check this park near these apartments that my H wanted to move into, so I went to the office to pick up a brouchure, but it was Sunday so it was closed. As I left, I happen to see MY CAR parked in front of an apartment. I called him and aksed "Hi, where are you?" He said the hospital. I said, "I'll ask you one more time, where are you?" He said, "The hospital, why?" I told him to look outside.... I had switched cars and drove my car home in a funk and ready to leave. He came after a few hours trying to say uhhhhhh, I was on my way to the hospital. and I'm tired of you following me and I'm sick of this marriage and I'm moving out! I know the Love Bank is at negative units, but he messed with the wrong woman. I'm going to see his mother and show her the evidence and see what he'll do. and he hasnt gotten his things yet, so I wonder what he's waiting for. Sorry I needed to vent, I wish I hung around to see his face when he walked outside to see my car gone and his sitting there.... Priceless<P>Furious<P>Fury

I saw your post about your H becoming a citizen. Did you H have his green card before he married you? If he did then there is probably nothing you can do about his becoming a citizen. But if he got his green card based on marrying you then you definitely need to get in touch with an immigration lawyer. There may something you can do to prevent his becoming a citizen if you can prove that the marriage was invalid because he did notenter into it in good faith. The INS comes down very hard on cases like that.<P>Ohio has a no fault/fault divorce so I would definitely keep all the evidence you have and file first under fault.<P>[This message has been edited by KalGrl (edited November 15, 2000).]<p>[This message has been edited by KalGrl (edited November 15, 2000).]

BSFury,<P>I personally think what you did was excellent. Your call, switching cars. You are right, his look must have been priceless.<P>Not a nice situation, but as I said, I think LB or no LB, under that circumstance you just have to do it.<P>Just my 2 cents....good luck.