Well I had my first session yesterday and it went ok. he told me to not do something I was planning to do(plan B) and to read SAA and to do the love busters questionair (have book already ordered).....he told me to continue with plan A and have patience......My H is coming into town this weekend to see the kids ....I asked him if he wanted to go and do something on saturday night and he already made plans with his brother......what is new he always made/makes plans with brother and leaves me home with kids....I never use to get upset because we lived in a differant stane and he didnt get to see him that often but he has made the coment that when I get around my mom/sister I become a little version of them (mini me...).....well he is the same whay when he is around bother.....isnt that the same thing?......I guess it is what's good for the goose isn't good for the gander.........<P>i still have hope and faith and I am going to ask him to make a new years resolution to get our family back on track......we will see how it goes.....<BR>amanda<P>------------------<BR>I will love my husband "Always & Forever"<BR>

just bringing this up to the top.....any advise<P>------------------<BR>I will love my husband "Always & Forever"<BR>

avance,<P>I'd follow Steve's advice. When in doubt, I always stuck with the Plan A stuff---once you have gone to Plan B, it's hard to undo (and send a consistant message). Steve probably wants to get a feel for where your efforts are best spent right now, and by doing the lovebuster's questionnaire, you'll be helping that.<P>Don't ask him to make a new year's resolution. That paints him into a corner, and if he doesn't respond the way you want him to, you may lovebust. Instead, you might want to state your hope for the new year, and with the coming of a new milennium perhaps a newly restored marriage will come with it.