1. Female<BR>2. Female 38, Male 38<BR>3. Female betrayed<BR>4. Common law marraige of 2years<BR>5. known for 9 years<BR>6. 1month and 1week since discovery<BR>7. total of PA abt 5-7 months<BR>8. Physical affair by male part. Ow EA<BR>9. 1 Affair<BR>10.currently female using m/b platform on male. male no knowing fully of m/b but sees things around the house. Do some thing on our own.<BR>11. We are living together <BR>12 OW - single<BR>13. Alleged OC with male, but will not test.<BR>14. STD - yes<BR>Bit background: living together on an off. Last break up 1998 after holidays, for 2 weeks. Affair started sometime after 1998 holidays. Until Aug of 98, when male was informed of pregnancy of OW. Sex was not frequent, just as needed the attention. Male says OW thinks he is a As-hole because of treatment, but still had sex with male. During that time we were talking getting back together, but he felt I consider making love as a chore. So he got his physicall and attention needs from OW. Infomed betrayed female this October of A of two years later and possibly being a father. Ow is saying OC his but will not test. Male said as of day he told female of A which was on Saturday 21st of October, then Monday Oct 23rd informed the OW, female knew and cut it off with OW. OW has called and left message to try to leave doors opened but male says he is not responding back to OW. He says that they have not had sex since he moved in two years ago with me, just mention her because of the situation of the OC.<P>Also found out at the end of November that partner was having sex with 3 OW's which was just pure sexual forefillment, attention as far as he was concern. I found out about these OW's because I got into his cell voicemail and every week of November one of them call. He said he did not mention these OW's because he had cut them off and to him they were not important to mention. However I was crushed again. He said he just saw these OW's when he needed the attention, that he was not getting from me sexually. <P>We have been in recovery ever since from ending all communication, changing cell phone numbers and business cards and not contact at work as much as he can control. He promises that it is over. He is only with me, he is very remorseful and we are growing together. He says he love me more now that he has ever loved me.<P>Wish us luck. Thanks you all for your time.<BR>