i belong to India where arranged marriages are the order of the day and lot of premium is placed on virginity at marriage. <P>i got engaged to a girl , but only recently she told me that she had a 2 yr relationship (with one sexual experience) in the past - which didnt work.<P>obviously this was a rude shock, but i dont know whether this would bug me all my life or will it be easy to get over it. <P>i dont know whether future possibility of infidelity from her can be extrapolated from this. Or whether she will be able to get over her relationship and have feelings for me.<P>its been just 3 days she told me this and i am going thru that "eyes wide shut" feeling where all day i can see a sailor making love to my fiancee - and the day she told me this, for the first time in life, i had sex (with a hooker though) but didnt really enjoy it ........<P>dont know what to do........whether to marry her or not......

H2C,<P>While I certainly can't presume to tell you whether you should marry this woman or not; I just want to pose one question for you.<P>Because you've had one sexual experience with a hooker, does that mean future infidelity for you can be extrapolated because of your experience?<P>I assume your fiance is from India also. Has she spent a lot of time in the states (I'm assuming you are now in the US?)<P>I would think that she "has gotten over her relationship" since she agreed to marry you. What does she say to you about it?<P>Best of luck,<P>------------------<BR>RobinAnn<P>*********<P>Blessed are the flexible, for they shall not be bent out of shape!