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I just found out some information that I can really hurt my H with. It could very easily get him fired from his job if I use it. <P>I am having very mixed feelings about this right now. If I use this info, he could lose his job, thus no longer working with OW, as well as possibly not living with her anymore. I don't think that she will support him, so he would then come to the rude awakening that all is not perfect in Paradise.<P>However, I don't know if I have it in me to follow through on actually using this info. I am sooo confused. <P>Help!!! <P>------------------<BR>God Bless you and yours,<P>Sheryl W.<P>www.widesmiles.org/gallery/britanie<BR>
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Hold on to it and think about it, Sheryl. I don't know what I would do either, but I know what I might do one day would be completely different the next. I'm feeling like as much of a waffler as H!!!!<P>No good advice. Just think about it.<P>On a day like today - that one would be tough!!!<P>Lori
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I would not do anything with that information. I believe and know from experience that it will probably backfire on you. If this does not end on it's own, he will probably not have it out of his system and there will be other problems to deal with. He will blame you for ruining what he thinks is a good thing. I have not seen your name there,but if you haven't looked into the women's bible study I urge you to do so. I just discovered it yesterday and I already feel a lot more peace in my life. take care and God bless.
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Seems to me that you are hesitant for a reason. I say follow your instinct and hold back.
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Never do anything you might regret later. Look before you leap. Always take the high road. And, all that jazz!!
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Thank you all for the replies. I will think really hard about this before I act or just forget it. I truly am not sure what I will do. I want to act on it, but those doubts about whether it would benefit me or not still nag at the back of my head.<P>I think that it would be the best thing for both him and us to lose this job. He is working with a bunch of crooks. He has a criminal record and if he were to get caught up in some of the companies dealings, he could very easily end up back in prison. I DON'T want that to happen, but if he ever found out that I had anything to do with him losing this job, I don't think he would ever forgive me.<P><BR>SOOOO... I think....and think....and think.<P><P>------------------<BR>God Bless you and yours,<P>Sheryl W.<P>www.widesmiles.org/gallery/britanie<BR>
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Honey, don't do it... you'll regret it. <P>If, for some reason, you <B>must</B> do it - send the info in an annonymous envelope so it can't be traced back to you.<P>Geez, I can't beleive I'm saying that... <P>~Sheryl
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Hold back and think give it time to se what tomorrow brings
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Thanks Sheryl and TFJ,<P>I am really analyzing this information.I am waiting for a few days to see how I feel. It is not that time sensitive that I can't wait. I will probably not sleep tonight for thinking about what I should do. I am not trying to be vendictive, I honestly trying to save him from prison time. I don't think that is wrong, however, he may see it as too interferring. <P> ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/frown.gif) <P>------------------<BR>God Bless you and yours,<P>Sheryl W.<P>www.widesmiles.org/gallery/britanie<BR>
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Sheryl,<P>Thanks for the web page on my thread.<P>I too could not only get W fired but I could ruin her career, and have her seen as an unfit mother in court. However this woulkd do nothing to get her head out of her...<P>I could also have D...head arrested for drugs. I know some vice cops. He would do at least 3 years. He'll get busted on his own, I say, TFB, too bad. Down the road punk. Meet your new cell mate Bubba. I picture him being 6 foot 5, 250 pounds, meaner than s..., with that gleam in his eyes that says fresh meat.<P>I don't know whats come over me. I'm directing all my anger towards him. Actualy it feels pretty good to get it all out. <P>Sorry if I have abused your thread.<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>
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Bill LOL LOL LOL LOL<P>Sheryl, <BR> You should really look at your motives before you do anything. If it is going to hinder your efforts to rebuild your marriage than don't. You want him to trust you too, don't you?<P>------------------<BR>Love and Prayers<BR>Nicole<P><BR>
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WilliamJ,<BR>I know that it would do nothing to aid in him pulling his head out... but since he has a felony record from when he was 17, if he gets into trouble now for what is going on within the company he works for, he will do a lot more time than 2 yrs. San Quinten. I don't want this to happen to him, he really has changed from the person he was back then. He is just rather stupid right now. I don't know if he is aware of the things that are happening in this company. But, if I use this information, he would be fired, and out of this atmosphere. He could very easily find another job with another company and not risk everything he has worked for over the past 10 years. <P>I am soooo confused.... <P>------------------<BR>God Bless you and yours,<P>Sheryl W.<P>www.widesmiles.org/gallery/britanie<BR>
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Sheryl,<P>If you don't want to lovebust, forget what ever it is you could hang him with.<P>It would be a major LB in my view. Disrespectful judgementor, or iritating behavior.<P>Do something loveing instead.<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>
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Thanks for the advice!!!!<P>I will forget it. I can't stand the thought of taking my daughter to see her Daddy behind bars, but I can't continue to be his protector. He has to learn to take care of himself. He is a big boy and I am not his mother. He has to suffer the consequences of his actions. I will leave this in God's hands. What will be, will be.<P>Thanks everyone.<BR><P>------------------<BR>God Bless you and yours,<P>Sheryl W.<P>www.widesmiles.org/gallery/britanie<BR>
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Good choice, Sheryl.<P>I fing that in this life there is a tab to pay for ALL of my actions.<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>
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