Thanks for the support; at least I don't feel so alone. It has been 2 weeks since my first posting. Christmas went pretty well but New Year's Eve. not so great. K. bartended the whole evening and I stayed home by myself. She said she didn't want me there because it just makes her too nervous. I told her this hurt me, even though I'm not big at spending the evening in a bar (it's her Dad's place). This past week she has seemed better but I suspect she still has contact with the OM. You all are correct that it doesn't matter and I am really trying to concentrate all-out on my Plan A. I can see why Dr. Harley suggests a 6-month period but the thought of it going that long isn't very encouraging. My W. is still in the fog, as far as I can tell, and has contributed little or nothing in terms of our marriage. She just seems to be at status quo. Our son will be leaving again for college in another week or two, and I think she'll be making some kind of "decision" soon after. The two of us are quite close, and I think that's been playing on her mind. Won't be suprised if I get served divorce papers but I'm trying to remain positive. It is difficult to try to work on my own happiness when I am so preoccupied with working on our marriage. Any suggestions?

youaintstupid, ifeelstupid.<P>What exactly have you done in your PlanA?<BR><P>------------------<BR>Belle, Domestic Goddess