I am 29 and engaged to be married in November. We have been together for over 4 years in which we have been living together for three years. In nearly all my past relationships I have never been faithful. In my present relationship I have not been faithful. The common thread to my encounters is that on all occasions I have not sought the opportunity rather they have been girls who have shown an intense interest in me. It is always a one off and does not normally end in sex. There is only ever lust involved and no emotional attachment afterwards. If I leave my fiancée whom I am very much committed to and wish to raise a family with, I cant say I would not continue to occasionally stray if I was to become involved with someone else at alater date. No body has ever known that I do this. Can I still marry and be happy with the knowledge that I am capable of doing this on the basis that I am always discrete in my actions?

JAM2,<P>The simple answer to you question...<BR>"Can I still marry and be happy with the knowledge that I am capable of doing this on the basis that I am always discrete in my actions?..."<P><B>NO</B>!<P>You will do well for yourself and everyone you come into contact with to learn and apply <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR><B>The Rule of Honesty:</B> Be totally open and honest with your spouse(or whoever you want to build a relationship with). (page 139 of <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi6070_sa.html" TARGET=_blank> "Surviving An Affair"(SAA)</A>)<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Check out the link...<LI> <B><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3903_rules.html" TARGET=_blank>The Rule of Honesty:</A></B> Be totally open and honest with your spouse (or spouse to be).<P>Please do the following...<BR>1. postpone the marriage... indefinitely<BR>2. speak to your fiancée... immediately about your propensity to cheat!<BR>3. get into counseling immediately (maybe MB counseling)<BR>4. before marriage... get into some "pre-Cana"/pre-marriage program...<BR>...and if you see yourself "not doing what is prescribed"... stop the program... separate from your fiancée... and move on!<P>Don't destroy your life and the lives of others!<P> <P>Jim